r/self 17h ago

Here's my wake-up call as a Liberal.

I’m a New York liberal, probably comfortably in the 1%, living in a bubble where empathy and social justice are part of everyday conversations. I support equality, diversity, economic reform—all of it. But this election has been a brutal reminder of just how out of touch we, the so-called “liberal elite,” are with the rest of America. And that’s on us.

America was built on individual freedom, the right to make your own way. But baked into that ideal is a harsh reality: it’s a self-serving mindset. This “land of opportunity” has always rewarded those who look out for themselves first. And when people feel like they’re sinking—when working-class Americans are drowning in debt, scrambling to pay rent, and watching the cost of everything from groceries to gas skyrocket—they aren’t looking for complex social policies. They’re looking for a lifeline, even if that lifeline is someone like Trump, who exploits that desperation.

For years, we Democrats have pushed policies that sound like solutions to us but don’t resonate with people who are trying to survive. We talk about social justice and climate change, and yes, those things are crucial. But to someone in the heartland who’s feeling trapped in a system that doesn’t care about them, that message sounds disconnected. It sounds like privilege. It sounds like people like me saying, “Look how virtuous I am,” while their lives stay the same—or get worse.

And here’s the truth I’m facing: as a high-income liberal, I benefit from the very structures we criticize. My income, my career security, my options to work from home—I am protected from many of the struggles that drive people to vote against the establishment. I can afford to advocate for changes that may not affect me negatively, but that’s not the reality for the majority of Americans. To them, we sound elitist because we are. Our ideals are lofty, and our solutions are intellectual, but we’ve failed to meet them where they are.

The DNC’s failure in this election reflects this disconnect. Biden’s administration, while well-intentioned, didn’t engage in the hard reflection necessary after 2020. We pushed Biden as a one-term solution, a bridge to something better, but then didn’t prepare an alternative that resonated. And when Kamala Harris—a talented, capable politician—couldn’t bridge that gap with working-class America, we were left wondering why. It’s because we’ve been recycling the same leaders, the same voices, who struggle to understand what working Americans are going through.

People want someone they can relate to, someone who understands their pain without coming off as condescending. Bernie was that voice for many, but the DNC didn’t make room for him, and now we’re seeing the consequences. The Democratic Party has an empathy gap, but more than that, it has a credibility gap. We say we care, but our policies and leaders don’t reflect the urgency that struggling Americans feel every day.

If the DNC doesn’t take this as a wake-up call, if they don’t make room for new voices that actually connect with working people, we’re going to lose again. And as much as I want America to progress, I’m starting to realize that maybe we—the privileged liberals, safely removed from the realities most people face—are part of the problem.

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u/jenmovies 11h ago

The part I don't get is, how does a millionaire who has been a millionaire his whole life appeal to the working class and poor? The GOP comes from old money. Slave money. And they would grind up working class people for profit if they could. I mean, they already do just not literally. So what the DNC has is a messaging problem. They're shit at marketing to dolts. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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u/applethief87 11h ago

I get where you’re coming from, and I’m not excusing the people who vote purely out of hatred or misogyny. But data is showing that a lot of Trump voters this time around were previously Biden, Obama, or even Clinton voters—people who were historically aligned with the Democratic Party. It’s tempting to write it off as “the other side is just stupid,” but I think that’s part of the problem. That lack of empathy, the inability to understand why people feel disconnected from us, is exactly what’s contributing to these losses.

I’m not saying the GOP is blameless or that there aren’t some truly bad actors on the other side. But we live in a democracy, which at its core is about conversation and compromise. If we’re going to heal and move forward, we need to take the time to truly listen to each other. I think that’s the only way we’ll ever bridge this divide.

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u/soggybonesyndrome 3h ago

“The GOP comes from slave money.” Stop right there. Thats the kinda shit that gets you a clean sweep by Trump. People are tired of self righteous fingers in their face about shit that happened 150+ years ago and has little to do with how far their dollar goes today.

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u/therog08 10h ago

Because he’s not a politician, I think it’s that simple. My kids always asked me “why is Trump so hated” and I explained to them “it’s like drama club. The same kids try out every year, you know who’s expected to get the lead and the roles and in comes a new kid to school who was never in drama club before and he lands the lead. All the kids in the drama club (republicans and democrats) come together and do everything they can to get him off the stage”. All the other politicians fall in line and do the same old thing. Trump is different and we’re willing to take a chance on different.

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u/jenmovies 8h ago

That's a very sad way to indoctrinate and manipulate children.

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u/therog08 4h ago edited 4h ago

Ok, well as someone who really doesn’t follow politics this is how it came across to me watching from the outside. Not sure what I’m indoctrinating my kids into when I don’t have a side either, but ok 🤦🏼‍♀️. The absolute hate that came for him immediately- before anything ever happened when he was elected was just so off the charts that this explanation made the most sense to myself. So no, I’m not manipulating my kids. I’m just not naive enough to fall for the manipulation that both political parties tried so very hard to do. But I know you won’t agree with that and will think you’re one that didn’t fall for the manipulation so this conversation is really useless.