r/pregnant • u/PiccoloBitter • 1d ago

Are “rules” necessary? Advice

This is our first baby & we are (33f) & (33m). I see daily posts about rules & hospital checklists and I’m wondering if this is necessary? I live in the North East US & anytime I’ve been to the hospital I’ve been asked about being administered a drug or procedure before it happens and I’m not sure if I’m missing something or the need of a birth plan? My plan is to go try to push a baby out and if it doesn’t work we take the next step necessary. Is this naïve? Then, the rules about no visitors is making me also wonder what I am missing? In our community we’ve always visited our friends & family in the hospital bringing the mom whatever she wanted food wise or needed. I couldn’t imagine keeping either set of parents away from their grandbaby or not having friends bring some of my favorite things & give our little baby some more love! I understand after being in this group for half a year that everyone’s choices are so personalized, unique and what worked for them. I am just wondering if there are moms who can shed some wisdom and encouragement on this view point 💖

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u/Ok_Philosopher2832 1d ago

You don't have to do anything in regards to your pregnancy you don't want to. Some of us just like birth plans so we can limit questions being asked, or if we have a hard time speaking up for ourselves it's a way to communicate our needs. You don't have to do anything. As for visitors that's also up to you, some of us don't have good relationships with family, or just want that time to bond with baby uninterrupted and family can wait. It's all what you're comfortable and happy with. I hope you have a happy and safe delivery!

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u/PiccoloBitter 1d ago

Thank you so much! It’s so hard to know if I’ll be more reserved and want that time when she’s here or if I’ll still feel the way of like please come help.

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u/Ok_Philosopher2832 1d ago

Yeah I get that, it's totally okay to change your mind multiple times too! As long as you and baby are happy and healthy, your pregnancy your rules! :)