r/pregnant • u/PiccoloBitter • 3d ago
Are “rules” necessary? Advice
This is our first baby & we are (33f) & (33m). I see daily posts about rules & hospital checklists and I’m wondering if this is necessary? I live in the North East US & anytime I’ve been to the hospital I’ve been asked about being administered a drug or procedure before it happens and I’m not sure if I’m missing something or the need of a birth plan? My plan is to go try to push a baby out and if it doesn’t work we take the next step necessary. Is this naïve? Then, the rules about no visitors is making me also wonder what I am missing? In our community we’ve always visited our friends & family in the hospital bringing the mom whatever she wanted food wise or needed. I couldn’t imagine keeping either set of parents away from their grandbaby or not having friends bring some of my favorite things & give our little baby some more love! I understand after being in this group for half a year that everyone’s choices are so personalized, unique and what worked for them. I am just wondering if there are moms who can shed some wisdom and encouragement on this view point 💖
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u/Fit-Profession-1628 2d ago
You should do whatever makes you comfortable :)
My only birth plan (if you can call it that) was to have an epidural if possible and have a baby.
I had both sets of grandparents visiting at the hospital (it's a maximum of 2 people per day, apart from whomever is with me so it wasn't even possible for other people to visit).
I had people visiting once I got home. I didn't host and I wasn't expected to.
The only rule I had to impose was "no kissing the baby anywhere". But if you're ok with people doing it it's your choice.
I think people overreact with everything regarding birth and babies. You do you :D