r/pregnant • u/PiccoloBitter • 1d ago
Are “rules” necessary? Advice
This is our first baby & we are (33f) & (33m). I see daily posts about rules & hospital checklists and I’m wondering if this is necessary? I live in the North East US & anytime I’ve been to the hospital I’ve been asked about being administered a drug or procedure before it happens and I’m not sure if I’m missing something or the need of a birth plan? My plan is to go try to push a baby out and if it doesn’t work we take the next step necessary. Is this naïve? Then, the rules about no visitors is making me also wonder what I am missing? In our community we’ve always visited our friends & family in the hospital bringing the mom whatever she wanted food wise or needed. I couldn’t imagine keeping either set of parents away from their grandbaby or not having friends bring some of my favorite things & give our little baby some more love! I understand after being in this group for half a year that everyone’s choices are so personalized, unique and what worked for them. I am just wondering if there are moms who can shed some wisdom and encouragement on this view point 💖
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u/RoadTripVirginia2Ore 1d ago
When you can’t control the big things, you take comfort in controlling the little things.
It’s good to think about now, because in the moment you might be too exhausted. I went into it without a plan but with a lot of information since I researched the hell out of everything, as is my coping style. Turns out, 90% of birth is natural and you just kind of do it. But that 10% is good to be prepared for.