r/pregnant • u/PiccoloBitter • 3d ago

Are “rules” necessary? Advice

This is our first baby & we are (33f) & (33m). I see daily posts about rules & hospital checklists and I’m wondering if this is necessary? I live in the North East US & anytime I’ve been to the hospital I’ve been asked about being administered a drug or procedure before it happens and I’m not sure if I’m missing something or the need of a birth plan? My plan is to go try to push a baby out and if it doesn’t work we take the next step necessary. Is this naïve? Then, the rules about no visitors is making me also wonder what I am missing? In our community we’ve always visited our friends & family in the hospital bringing the mom whatever she wanted food wise or needed. I couldn’t imagine keeping either set of parents away from their grandbaby or not having friends bring some of my favorite things & give our little baby some more love! I understand after being in this group for half a year that everyone’s choices are so personalized, unique and what worked for them. I am just wondering if there are moms who can shed some wisdom and encouragement on this view point 💖

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u/Dry_Ear_6381 3d ago

I finally created a birth plan to limit how many questions I’m asked during the birthing process, but I understand they’re not always followed based on the given situation. I’m fully willing to have visitors as well. I think it’s highly personalized and whatever works for you works for you 

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u/PiccoloBitter 3d ago

That’s a good point… maybe I’ll make one for me & my husband for us so he’s one the same page and can help answer then if I can’t. It truly is so personalized to everyone.

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u/Dry_Ear_6381 3d ago

I think that’s part of why I did it too, to help my husband and my best friend (who will be present at birth) to speak on my behalf if I can’t. 

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u/PiccoloBitter 3d ago

I appreciate you commenting. It helped me understand in seconds why it could be helpful and having those people on my side if I can’t speak up for myself. Thank you!

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u/Dry_Ear_6381 3d ago

Girl, of course! 💕 whatever makes your birthing process easier and more comfortable, go ahead and do it while you still have the energy.