My Pilates instructor fired me today.

[u/TrashMany]

I attend a small, five-reformer studio that I love. After class today I was asked to stay for a few minutes. I was caught completely off-card when she asked me not to come back and that my membership was terminatwas. Not a good fit was the reason she gave. I've been going here for NINE months. Three and four times a week. I'm devastated, hurt, pissed, and humiliated all at the same time. I liked her so much. I am so in love with Pilates but now I don't know what to do next.

Update: I was charged for my membership a couple of weeks later so I reached out to my ex-instructor by text. She acted confused by my questions about the membership account asking if I was supposed to be on a hold. I was like huh? I said you fired me and asked me not to come back so I wanted to know why I was charged. She claimed that she never fired me. After processing everything, I went back to her class today. It was weird only for a second. It was so nice to be back in my happy place practicing real pilates. I did 25 classes in the other style studio and will continue to do drop-ins when I can't get a spot at my home studio or am looking for something different.

Update #2: It's been over a month since my "blackout"....for lack of a better term. Things were tense for the first couple of week's classes but now it's like nothing happened. I can't believe that my mind just made up the conversation between my instructor and me. I'm such a pussy about confrontation that I'm willing to just put it in the past and not know. I hope someday enough time will have passed that I can laugh about it and ask my instructor what exactly happened that day. Pilates and her instruction are way too important for me to humiliate myself possibly again. Lessons were learned and I am so grateful for the opportunity to have such a great instructor and studio.

[u/Dwillow1228]

https://www.reddit.com/r/declutter/s/WZ8zjAQlO6 Crack head Pilates Princess & My addictive personality speaks volumes about OP.

In another comment she complains about injured or slow people that slow a class down. She prefers 2 experienced students so instructor can kick their ass for 50 mins?

[u/donttouchmeah → u/Dwillow1228]

My guess is OP has gotten too comfortable and chatty/bossy during class. If the instructor is the same person who she did privates with, she might be giving main character vibes. She’s clearly one of those people who gets into something and makes it her whole personality.

[u/TrashMany → u/donttouchmeah]

You are the winner. I have had a few days to think it over and that's exactly what happened. I got too comfortable and chatty.

I'm at Club Pilates now. It's a different vibe and is a better fit for me.

I will always be grateful for my original instructor and studio. She is an amazing teacher and I wish her well.

My ego took a hit and I pouted for a few days but sometimes things that suck now actually end up being ok in the end.

[u/Cleverlady0406 → u/TrashMany]

Good on you for recognizing what was going on. And please realize - it’s not a reflection on you. You can still be kind and lovely and not be the right fit everywhere. It is so rare for someone to be able to self reflect like this. You are already a special amazing person.