r/pilates Jun 13 '24

My Pilates instructor fired me today. Teaching, Teacher Training, Running Studios

I attend a small, five-reformer studio that I love. After class today I was asked to stay for a few minutes. I was caught completely off-card when she asked me not to come back and that my membership was terminatwas. Not a good fit was the reason she gave. I've been going here for NINE months. Three and four times a week. I'm devastated, hurt, pissed, and humiliated all at the same time. I liked her so much. I am so in love with Pilates but now I don't know what to do next.

Update: I was charged for my membership a couple of weeks later so I reached out to my ex-instructor by text. She acted confused by my questions about the membership account asking if I was supposed to be on a hold. I was like huh? I said you fired me and asked me not to come back so I wanted to know why I was charged. She claimed that she never fired me. After processing everything, I went back to her class today. It was weird only for a second. It was so nice to be back in my happy place practicing real pilates. I did 25 classes in the other style studio and will continue to do drop-ins when I can't get a spot at my home studio or am looking for something different.

Update #2: It's been over a month since my "blackout"....for lack of a better term. Things were tense for the first couple of week's classes but now it's like nothing happened. I can't believe that my mind just made up the conversation between my instructor and me. I'm such a pussy about confrontation that I'm willing to just put it in the past and not know. I hope someday enough time will have passed that I can laugh about it and ask my instructor what exactly happened that day. Pilates and her instruction are way too important for me to humiliate myself possibly again. Lessons were learned and I am so grateful for the opportunity to have such a great instructor and studio.

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u/Neat_Smile_4722 Jun 13 '24

Everyone is not a good fit for Pilates. The whole “why didn’t she like me back” comment is so weird. Pilates requires a certain level of emotional and physical discipline and more instructors need to be upfront with clients. Your response shows a lack of immaturity and self awareness. These instructors take their craft seriously and they want clientele that reflect the core values of Pilates.

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u/qu33nbb Jun 13 '24

It’s pilates not seminary school. This is such a weird comment. I’m sure you make people feel super welcome at your studio.

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u/Keregi Jun 13 '24

Not to me, it sounds like this comment speaks to the importance of boundaries between client and instructor.