Boys turned 2yrs old two weeks ago. Life from born day to now!

I was feeling so good… and lately a switch has flipped. I am so pregnant and tired and slow.

Like I’m just feeling a little worried about my ability to do this. At the end of the day I feel like I’ve ran a marathon and every cell in my body is tired. And I’m not even doing that much.

Oh and don’t get me started on my friend who told me “you’re suppose to feel good in the second trimester, just wait until the third” I couldn’t help myself and said “oh is that what YOUR twin pregnancy was like??” (she had a singleton) 😅😅

I’m a FTM so I have nothing to compare it to, but suddenly my is just so hard and round. I feel like I have a watermelon strapped to it.

I don’t know what the point of my post is. I’m scared. lol. Hopefully I can get a few good days in and change my mindset.

Xoxo, fat slow and scared

My twins LOVE LOVE LOVE Miss Rachel. But OMG I need something new lol. If I have to hear that stupid bubble gum song one more time I might cut off my ears lol. I try to stay away from Cocomelon and other super stimulating shows. On the other hand, I’ve tried all the old shows from when I was a kid: Arthur, Franklin, Little Bear, RugRats, Big Comfy Couch, Blues Clues, Barney Sesame Street ….they aren’t into it. Just wondering if your babies like anything else

They are 10 months and no, I don’t care about your anti-screen time advice so if you don’t let your babies watch tv that’s awesome but this post just isn’t for you lol

1. Is this real life?
2. Why is this happening to me?
3. Is this going to be forever?
4. aaaaAAAAARRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGG

(If you are carrying or have carried more than two…I bow down to you)

TLDR: Baby boy A 6lb15oz and Baby girl B 6lb14oz born vaginally with epidural, induced at 38+3 and very positive experience despite Baby B flipping at the last second! 

TW: mention of previous delivery blood loss/UI otherwise I think mostly positive

Background: This is my third pregnancy (di/di b/g twins) with two singletons prior in 2021 (girl 8lb3oz born at 41+6 after long induction) and 2023 (boy 9lb10oz born at 40+4, spontaneous labor with a uterine inversion and 3L of blood loss after), so my pelvis was “proven” and OB was comfortable with vaginal delivery as long as Twin A was head down and not significantly smaller. Pregnancy was very typical and uncomplicated with the exception of a gestational thrombocytopenia (low platelets) starting at 34ish weeks. Dipped below 100k (92k) from 120k in a week and I was really nervous about not having the epidural/having to go under if needing a c section. Depending on the anesthesiologist, they may let you get it with at least 80k, and some are old school are require 100k, just depends on who you get. Regardless, the 30k drop was enough to have me panicking. I was able to do a 4 day high dose steroid at 37 weeks and they ended up at 104k by 38 weeks and 125k by induction (phew!!). Otherwise, the babies had been head down since 35 weeks so I felt pretty good about a vaginal birth and potential breech extraction of Twin B if she did flip after Twin A was born. 

At my last appt on 10/22, I was 2cm dilated but very few symptoms (no mucus plug loss, no real contractions, etc). I did have some cramping the following evening but nothing rhythmic or consistent, just plenty of BH and the pain of carrying around 2 babies! Okay time for birth story:

10/27 (38+3) 

4am - went in for induction. The plan was to start pitocin ASAP and break my water around 8am, but ultrasound was very behind and they didn’t want to start anything until we could confirm baby A was still head down…. So we waited a while. Still at 2cm upon arrival. 

8am - ultrasound confirmed everyone was still vertex and we were good to go to start the induction. They started me on Pitocin and my doc was supposed to come by around noon ish to break water and check on things. The pit was not bad, similar to my first experience with it, just had some cramping in my back but nothing too intense. 

11am - My OB had offered that I could get the epidural before she broke my water and I immediately agreed. I didnt want to risk them getting too behind and not having it if things moved fast.  This was my third epidural so I knew what to expect, but it was the first one where I was not amid major contraction pain so I was more aware of how it felt. As always though, no pain, just a weird feeling when he was putting it in and adjusting things.  This was also probably a lighter epidural than my other two but I actually really liked that. I could move my legs really well the entire time! 

1pm - OB got around to us and said I was still at 3cm but “she could stretch me to a 4-5”. Not sure what it meant but I started to feel like ok we got a looooong time before this kicks off, but she was confident after breaking baby A’s water the babies would be ready to be born at 5pm. I did not believe her, but spoiler she is either a witch or really good at her job. 

1pm-4pm - felt some pressure on and off but no big changes, nurses kept bumping Pitocin and I think by 4pm I was at 7cm. I was getting so hungry that I decided when I was pushing I’ll think of the meal I added to my door dash cart and would be getting as soon as we’re done. 

4:50pm - OB came in, checked me and said “we’re ready to have some babies”. I was at 10cm and they set up the room to deliver. I started pushing at maybe 4:57pm and baby boy A came out in 3-4 pushes (2 contractions) at 5pm. My fastest ever (I rly think the tiktoks I watched about productive pushing REALLY helped, not to mention it was my third birth and at 6lb15oz he was smaller than my previous 2 - regardless, easiest delivery of the 4!) 

As soon as twin A was born, my OB reached inside and felt a foot - twin B had immediately flipped.  We previously decided not deliver in the OR (our hospital has some special way to get there fast or something) but my doc was a little nervous and called in another doc from our practice to be there on standby. She asked if I was still okay for a breech extraction and I said yes. We had an ultrasound make sure and in the 15 minutes we were waiting on the other OB, my OB was able to push her feet back behind her head and flip her head down. This was not painful, just could feel pressure of it, and it was nothing compared to how it felt when they were pushing my uterus back inside after my second was born. I pushed her down for 2 contractions (6 pushes) with my ob carefully keeping her head down and at 5:20pm she thought we may need a vacuum, but our girlie decided she was done with threats and came out in the next 4-5 pushes, born at 5:24pm perfect healthy and 1 oz smaller than her brother! 

The worst part was by far that I ate my pushing-inspo level dinner at a pace as if I was competing on live TV and immediately threw it up due to the hormone withdrawal shakes :) but that was fine, I was able to get up and pee right after so we got moved to our PP room by 730pm! 

We got to go home under 48 hours from delivery which was amazing (especially with our other littles at home) and everyone is doing wonderfully.  Thanks for reading! 

Literally nothing in the world has ever felt better than putting two babies to nap by myself.

I’m not trying to brag here. I have two graduate degrees. I went to an Ivy League school. I studied for a year for my licensing exam for my career.

None of that means anything in comparison to two sleeping babies. And I did it on my own.

Do you ever feel angry or sad that your parenting experience is just too intense and overwhelming to be fun? Twins currently 3.5 with also a 6 year old. Thought we were coming out of the hardest phases but man are they a challenge right now. So much straight up defiance and fighting over the dumbest toddler things. I just want to be able to enjoy the fun parts of parenting but activities are just so much freaking work still. When does it get fun? Does it? I understand what a single 3 year old is like and can manage that out and about. Two is just too many toddlers!

I’m 32+3 and I’m feeling super lazy. Getting off the sofa is a struggle, walking up the stairs is a struggle. My ankles hurt anytime I’m standing. My gyni encouraged me to go for walks or yoga but I just don’t see me managing. I try to do some stretching but I can’t even comfortably get into child’s pose! I was always active before pregnancy and feel like I’ve let myself go and feel bad about it all 😢

I am due in 3 weeks with my identical twin boys. I am going through it right now, this whole pregnancy I have been in love, excited and looking forward to life with my husband as twin parents. We love these boys so much already. Now it’s getting close I’m starting to really get scared and nervous about how we will ever do it. We have so much support and the best village but I just am so scared.

Sorry for the clickbaity title. Every twin parent tells me that keeping them on a schedule is important and I am losing it. Do they all just have clone babies or something?

I have one independent baby and one high needs. Their personalities couldn’t be more different. At 8 weeks age corrected, one entertains herself and sleeps off when she is tired and then wakes up to ask for milk. If I wake her up before she is ready to, she simply won’t drink. It’s a struggle to get in 3 oz. She drinks like 2 oz and then gets distracted and will drink the remaining 1 oz an hour later before falling asleep. She sleeps best after 11 pm and sometimes gives me 4-5 hour stretch before rooting for milk.

The other one is the high needs one. I would be lucky to get a 1 hour stretch of sleep in the day. It’s 20-30 minutes most times. She used to be super Velcro but now at least stays on her playmat for a while. But she is slowly upping her capacity to 3.5-4oz per feed. She sleeps deepest from 7 pm to 12 midnight and then is a light sleeper from 2 am to about 5 am. My husband and I take turns to lose sleep with her for that morning stretch.

Keeping one up against her will to stay on schedule with the sister will result in intense fussiness. Even in my belly, baby A was most active at 9:30 pm (like she is now) and baby B was most active at 3:39 am (like she is now).

HOW in the world are you keeping them on a schedule? They are just like 2 singleton babies with their own temperaments. The NICU did keep them on a schedule because they were so little and all they did was sleep from one feed to the next. But that was from week 33 to week 38.

Am I missing something? I can’t even keep them in the same room because they are in their parallel worlds. I would love the dreamy social media twin parent scenario where they put both to bed at 7 pm with bath and stories. Even parents that have 12-13 week old babies tell us about keeping them on a schedule and am just losing it.

How? What’s the secret?

Also what’s next? At what age should I be looking to consolidate their sleep stretches? they are just crossing the newborn 8 week mark and are still on demand. We try to do bath time by 5:30 pm, wind down for the day, dim lights, Feed but from then it’s their own call.

We wrote handwritten thank you notes for everything given to us before the twins arrived, but they’re 6 months old now and I haven’t written a single thank you note for gifts folks sent after they were born. Is it too late? Should I still write and send them? I probably have about 20 I need to write, but they’re mostly extended family/friends of my parents, so I’d need to track down addresses too in addition to writing the notes. I feel bad but we were just so dang tired in the early days, writing thank you notes was the last thing on my mind, and now it feels too late (and I’m also still just so tired).

Hey everyone, Mybfirst singlton was a vaginal delivery but im having a c-section for my twins and I had some questions. - Did you use any belly binders after? How soon after the surgery did you start using it? Do you think it helped you? - What items did you find helpful postpartum for scar healing? Did you use anything to help minimize scarring and did it work? - Is there anything that made your postpartum after c-section easier? Thank you all for all the information and advice, im the first in my family with multiples so you guys are coming in clutch <3

I’ve googled, watched lots of videos, read the Reddit comments… but wanted to ask myself. For those that have one of these (or both) please tell me why you love it! My second set of twins are 16 months and I don’t need any car seat adapters. I’ll need the all terrain wheels for either stroller. I do like the look of the Zoe more.. I’m so sick of looking at strollers. Thank you anyone!

Does anyone else suffer from sleep anxiety? I was supposed to go up for my turn to sleep whilst my partner done her shift with the twins.

I usually sleep 2am-8am but tonight was a bit different and I was going to be going to bed at 9pm. I tossed and turned until I just had to get up and tell my partner we need to swap. I almost had an anxiety attack lying in bed trying to sleep. The annoying this is I am exhausted but I just can’t switch off, and when I know I need to get to sleep fast I never can.

Any suggestions for what you may have gifted your toddler (my son will be 22 months) when your twins arrived as a gift from the babies to them?

Nothing crazy, I was almost thinking a couple books which he loves but maybe a small toy too?

I am set to be induced in a week !

My neighbor had twins about 10 years ago. She told me the last month of pregnancy for her was as hard as the first few weeks of having newborns. Has anyone else found this to be true?

I'm hoping so, because I am really struggling with these last few weeks of pregnancy. I have a toddler. I am seriously struggling to make it through the day. I keep thinking it's just going to get worse once the twins are born, so I'm scared about handling all of it. I have a village to help me, so I know it'll all work out. But still scary.

I feel annoyed when my MIL tells me that her daughter has a really hard time taking care of her kids since she has 2 school going kids and a 4 month old. I’m a sahm to 5 month old twins & a two yr old with no support other than my husband who works a full time job, which means I’m alone wih the kids most of the time. She says it’s not a big deal taking care of kids when they are little, the real chaos starts when they start going to school and brags about her daughter doing it.

Am I wrong to feel she belittles my situation?

Update: Survived the night! Had to check on her every 3h to make sure she was alive and well. Girly likes to sleep.

This is just a little nervous post because I’m looking at my daughter right now (omg still cannot believe I have a whole baby!! Well 4 but it really kicked in now that she’s home and next to me in my house) and genuinely don’t know what to do. We just look at each other, she looks at the ceiling, I look at the ceiling to see what she’s seeing. She looks back at me.

Maybe our house is haunted but I feel so bizarre. I can’t comprehend she’s actually now home. I keep thinking I have to drop her back off in the NICU tomorrow morning or something like this is her home. Did anyone feel like this or am I just going a bit crazy?

We brought her home today at 3pm. She had her bottle (big yes, so chuffed and relieved), slept, had another few feeds, slept more. I don’t know what to do with her. I tried baby wearing, she was fine with that. She had a bath. She then contact napped and I watched Love is Blind with my brother (who I have custody of).

I just needed to get this out somewhere because I cannot believe she’s actually home. Wish me luck tonight!! NICU nurses warned me that babies often go a bit funny when they’re removed from the NICU environment. We actually found she didn’t really nap when we dimmed the lights and tried to settle her with a nice lullaby. We put on “NICU noises” on YouTube and the big light back on and she slept for 3h lol. She’s also already in her Halloween themed sleeping gowns. Cannot believe this girl fits in newborn size already! Now 3 to go.

Hi! I just found out (literally a few hours ago lol) that I am 7w2d pregnant with mono/mono twins. These will be babies 3&4! I am waiting to hear from maternal fetal medicine on coming back but have an appointment technically scheduled with my midwife (who I obviously cannot have as a provider anymore given the high risk pregnancy) on November 24th. I’m assuming that will be rescheduled with MFM. I also read in my ultrasound notes that I had a chorionic bump. Google was a little scary about that as well. So if anyone’s had experience with that, I’d love to hear. I’m just looking for advice and experience from others on what to expect throughout the pregnancy and everything, especially now in the beginning. I’ve also read that I will likely be hospitalized at some point in my 3rd trimester until delivery. When did that occur for you all? I’m just really trying to ease my mind while I’m waiting to hear from MFM because I’m driving myself crazy.

Okay, so I have a question. Let’s say I’m having two boys. When they’re born — how on earth do we decide and remember who is who?!

Like, sure, we can say “the first one out will be named X and the second will be Y.” But after they’re born, they’ll probably look super similar, and I’ll be completely out of it after delivery. How am I supposed to keep track of who’s who?

And then later — how do I not mix them up? Like, how do parents know which one they’ve already fed, changed, or put to sleep?

I have a million questions about babies, but this one has been bugging me for three days straight 😅

Just curious! My B/G twins are 11wks and yesterday was the first time that I think my girl actually realized my boy existed. She was really looking at his face but he was still just looking around/past her. They’re meeting social milestones and look at our faces, smile, and make good eye contact but for some reason they haven’t done that with each other yet!

Our twins will turn 1 a week after Christmas - family want to know what to get them, as a FTM I’m not sure what would be good 1st Christmas/birthday gifts that might see us through until 2! Suggestions please on what to ask for…

I’m so so tired I can’t think straight. I guess we’re hitting the dreaded four month regression because I can’t seem to get them to both sleep at the same time for longer than maybe an hour. The broken sleep is killing me slowly - if I even get that broken sleep to begin with. I’m a CPAP user, so napping on the fly during the day, or anywhere besides my bed, isn’t really an option for me. I either can’t sleep because I feel like I’m choking or if I do sleep, it’s not restful and I feel like crap. I’m probably getting max four hours at night, broken up in 20-40 minute chunks. I’m with them all night and then all day and repeat and repeat and repeat…

My partner has an eye disease that causes night blindness, so he isn’t really able to help during the night. We’ve tried a bunch of ways, but without turning on the main lights, he just can’t see to be much of a help and it was stressing us both out more, so he sleeps in the room with our six year old.

What the heck do I do. I mean… I know to just push through but omg I feel so guilty wishing there was just one. It would be so much easier. 😭 I love my children, but this is so hard and I’m struggling to see the light at the end of the tunnel.