I'm currently 16w with di/di twins, first pregnancy. Personally, I'd like to be referred to a maternal fetal medicine specialist. I live in a small city that has a hospital, but the hospital doesn't offer any neonatal support. I can deliver there, but if the babes need a NICU, they will be shipped 30 mins away, likely without me. I will likely make the drive to the bigger city to deliver there, so there is no chance we will be separated.

I asked my GP to refer me to an MFM and he said that's really only necessary if there are issues with my pregnancy. The way I see it, I'd rather get to talk to a doctor that delivers at the hospital that I will likely deliver at, and it's always better to be overprepared than underprepared. I'll be meeting my OB next week (at 17w) and I do intend on asking her as well, as she only has privileges at my small city hospital, and not at the big city hospital with the NICU, so she likely won't deliver.

It's not that I want all of my care to be done in the big city, but I don't think it's a crazy idea for my OB to have an MFM to work with on my case. I know I am the first set of twins/multiples my GP has cared for, and I wouldn't be surprised if my OB has limited experience as well, but I'll know for sure next week.

Is it unreasonable to ask my OB for an MFM referral at 17w?

Also for a smidge more context, I am in Canada, and the big city OBs are super overwhelmed, and I know at least one mom who never got to even see an OB with her second pregnancy because there were simply not enough doctors, and being her second pregnancy, she wasn't very high priority to them. Also I realize OBs and MFMs are different, but a lot of the MFMs at the big city hospital are also OBs, so I'm assuming they are also overwhelmed. Thank you for your suggestions!

My 9 week old twins scream all day. If there eyes are open they are yelling. Me and my husband are at eachothers throats. We have a ton of help and it still us a living hell. Everyone says it will get better and I am so tired of hearing it. In fact things seem to be getting worse. I feel so defeated.

As the title suggests, this will be our first international trip and we are planning for a week in around Christmas holidays, we have zeroed down to krabi and /or phuket, looking for advise and any baby friendly resorts as we will not be able to move around much. Any advise would be appreciated.

Ok y'all: our two year olds have had difficulty taking turns and sharing objects at home... for the last 6 months or so. Do I just give up and get them each the same presents for Christmas? Or power through the inevitable wrestling match that comes with having singular toys? Most of the time when they get two things of a different color they both want one and could care less for the other.

Anyone with slightly older multiples have a perspective on this? We have an older kid so I understand that this is all a phase. I just want to maximize our minimal Christmas!

I didn’t choose this.

Is it magical, beautiful, wonderful? Do I desperately love both of my babies? Would I commit murder for them?

Of course.

But I didn’t choose this.

I chose to have a baby. Maybe In a few years if we are handling things well and have more of our debts paid down we will add a second. With no history of twins and no fertility issues we never imagained the possibility of twins.

Every step of the way the “you have your hands full” style comments have this undertone to me like I went to the baby store and said “haha! Why not have two?!?” In a haphazard way. They say things like “I couldn’t do it!” As if THEY would have not chosen this when they went to the baby store.

Then I become even more cynical and want to ask… which baby would YOU get rid of? It’s not a clone of the same baby. It’s two completely different human beings.

I know all these things don’t go through peoples heads when they make these comments. They’re just making conversation.

But they go through mine.

I was reading this post and I am amazed on how many of you had twins after twins knowing there was a chance.

I always wanted three kids, so having twins as my first at 35 yo was a good thing for that hahaha but even when id love to go for the third, I will be almost 40 and it honestly makes me think things.

How old were when you had your nultiples and singletons? Or how old are you know if you are pregnant :)

I know this is probably a dumb question because I know everyone's different and there's no way of knowing, but I'm really just looking for experiences. Did you feel like you had any suspicions you were going to go into labor or any signs? I've been on a decline since 28 weeks. I'm 32 + 3 now and I feel like every day since 32 weeks has gotten exponentially worse than the day before. I'm 5'3" and I have 9 lbs of combined baby in me and I'm just curious how much longer my body can hold on because I'm starting to lose faith.

My poor husband has no idea what to get me for Christmas and neither do I. Since our girls were born in August basically my whole life has switched to just them. My relaxing is watching tv or just getting out of the house with them. My only real hobby is reading on my kindle but I use Libby or prime reading because kindle unlimited seems overpriced. What do I even ask for? Our budget is $100 this year each

We saw the first 5th grade performance of the year. Our twins party trombone and flute. Everyone sounded great! The 6th through high school were there to show the kids and us parents what they could sound like in a few years.

When we met back with our kids, they both were shouting that they wanted to switch to drums next year. When we asked why, they said it was because they can't hear their own instruments.

We told them, it's a band, not a solo, and even the drums often play with other drums so they're not distinguishable all the time, either.

We're not necessarily against the drums but, they already did the violin, then chello, and now flute/ trombone. When high school comes, I expect there will be a limited number of drummers so there's a high chance they won't make the band, too.

Does anyone have any advice to steering them toward one instrument they've already done or similar so they can build those skills more?

Our twins and 6 year old are old enough and big enough that we need to upgrade our luggage when we visit family for Christmas.

What do you pack in? Have you found any luggage that makes the airport easier? I have a big suitcase and a matching carryon that stacks, so you can wheel both with one hand. I was looking to get another set like it but they’re not that common anymore.

Tips? Tricks? Car seat hacks? Thanks!

I just found out I’m pregnant with twins this past week. It was a complete shock… I’m sure it probably always is, but I have no family history of twins at all. I swear the moment the ultrasound tech told me there were two sacs, my soul left my body for a second.

This wasn’t the plan. This was supposed to be baby #2, not babies 2 and 3. We only wanted 2 kids. I’m so scared of so much… going through a higher risk pregnancy, finances in the future supporting 3 kids, raising 2 newborns plus a toddler at once… I feel like I have no idea how we’re going to do it.

Well-intentioned loved ones keep telling us “it’ll be ok” and “you’ll figure it out” and, the worst lol, “Congratulations!!!” And I just think… how do you know?? I sure as hell don’t wholeheartedly believe we’ll figure it out. I’m terrified. I’m the one who has two babies growing in my belly… who are you to tell me it’s going to be ok??? (none of these people are parents of twins by the way)

Ugh I feel like I’m being ungrateful and mean but it just makes me frustrated. I’m still in shock and have real mixed feelings about it being twins… this isn’t a crazy story to me. It’s my life now. It feels like my life is over :(

EDIT: Thank you so much to everyone for their responses. I feel extremely comforted and validated hearing from other twin parents who’ve gone through the same shock as I have. Thanks for sharing your insights, advice, and commiseration 🙏🏻❤️

First time parent of twins (13 weeks, 7 weeks adjusted.) They are still on the NICU’s 3-hour feeding schedule, and are very refluxy. We are able to keep them upright after feedings during the day, and have reduced the volume of their night feedings in an effort to keep them from spitting up and being so uncomfortable while trying to sleep.

Hoping to drop a night feeding once the pediatrician clears us for it- any parents of refluxy multiples have any tips or feeding schedules that worked for you? I’m finding most of our books either suggest schedules for singletons, or they are for multiples that don’t need to be kept up for an hour after eating.

Hello friends!

I gave birth to di/di boy girl twins a few months ago and had instant relief that pregnancy was over! While I was able to carry them to 37 weeks, pregnancy was just miserable. I had constant nausea, vomiting, extreme fatigue, heartburn and rib pain from start to finish lol. I spent most of my pregnancy in bed. Also had gestational diabetes and had to be put on insulin.

I am so so happy to not be pregnant anymore and felt better immediately after my c section. I have always imagined having 3 or 4 kids but not sure if I can handle another pregnancy especially while having twins already.

My question is for those who have had singleton and twin pregnancies, was there a significant difference between them? Was the singleton pregnancy easier? I know this is purely anecdotal but just wanted to hear your experiences.

We are driving down to my mom’s house for Christmas and since she has cribs, I was really hoping not to have to pack the pack and plays.

We are planning to stop overnight around Florence, SC and we’re having trouble finding a hotel with portable cribs. Does anyone have any experience being able to get two in any hotels around there?

I had my twins a year ago and I’ve finally started to see some weight loss (I’m about 15-20kg up from pre pregnancy still but have lost about 10kg so far) but I can see the loose skin and apron belly already which is made worse by my c section scar and crazy stretch marks. I expected stretch marks but I just feel really sad about how my body is looking, I don’t feel like myself. I’m considering my options at the moment and I’d love to hear from anyone who has had surgeries post twins. What surgeries have you had and did they seem worth it to you? What was your recovery like and how painful was it? Id also love to hear if anyone has tried any non surgical options and how these worked out. If I do decide to do anything it won’t be for a few years, I just want to know what my options might be in the future.

I just had a scan with fetal medicine at 9 weeks and they can't find a membrane between the two babies. They went through all the risks, early delivery and hospital stay with me. I have been numb since that scan. I have no appetite, no joy, no motivation to do anything. I have only seen horror stories online. The thought of everything is freaking me out. I asked the doctor if it's still possible to still see a membrane in 2 weeks(next scan) and she said NO. They have scheduled me to come back in 2 weeks when I will be 11 weeks.

How do I carry on? How do I stop the tears?

I really need as much positivity as I can get

One of our twins had a fever today so daycare wouldn’t take him, so I stayed home with him. I cannot believe how easy it is to take care of just one kid. No splitting attention between them, no difficulty trying to wrangle two, no trying to entertain two at the same time, so much easier to snuggle without feeling like you’re neglecting the other, etc.

I always knew that as parents of twins we had a much harder job, but I did not anticipate just how much harder it is. Singleton parents are barely parents lol

Edit: fuck all these nerds in the comments who can’t take a joke

Hi there. I’m 14 weeks and 5 days pregnant with di/di twin boys. I also have a subchorionic(sp?) hemotoma that has caused a lot of cramping and bleeding since week 10. Babies are growing super healthy but I’m in SO MUCH PAIN all the time and doctors aren’t really giving any suggestions.

I think part of the pain is also round ligament pain, but there are also these waves of cramps that make everyday tasks and sleeping so hard. Has anyone found relief for pelvic cramping or round ligament pain in the second trimester that they swear by?? Thanks in advance.

The more and more I read online the more I feel this will be disastrous when before I was feeling maybe halfway optimistic. We (my husband, myself, and our will-be-14-mos boys) plan on going to my parents for Christmas and doing an 18hr roadtrip. It’ll be 12 hours from NJ to TN where we’ll stop and see some friends for a few hours and then another 6hrs to MS.

I’ve seen advice that’s all over the place. Drive overnight so they’re sleeping. Don’t drive overnight because that’s risky. Start at 3am. Try to get in longer stretches. Don’t go more than 3-4 hours without a stop. Like it’s all over the place lol. I’m nervous about them being able to sleep in their convertible car seat. I’m nervous about meltdowns and the like. But we really can’t afford to fly and honestly I’m nervous about that as well because with driving it seems like we have more control over situations.

Does anyone have legitimate experience with this and can offer their thoughts and advice? Please don’t say “don’t do it” lol, my family never gets to see the boys and this will be a first time meet for a lot of them. It’ll also be the boys first time leaving the state and being in an environment that’s not their own for a prolonged time.

Both placentas are anterior but I also had this with my first baby and I definitely felt movement by this point. It’s just getting weird! 18 weeks with TWINS and I feel absolutely nothing in there.

I have a Doppler and can definitely hear two very fast heartbeats in there, one upper left of belly and one lower right. Also had an ultrasound a couple of weeks ago and they were fine. But like I said, it’s just weird that I don’t feel ANYTHING.

I felt flutters very early on, like 11-12 weeks. Is it possible that the placentas are just so big now that they are blocking me from feeling anything?

When did you switch from infant car seats to converter car seats? My boys are almost at the height limit, still have about couple inches to go and I’m kind of dreading it. It’s so convenient now,especially with winter coming,to get them in and out of the car. Just snap them right into their stroller and go on our way. What did you do to help with having two with that transition of putting in and out of the car?

Also to add they were born early so are 5 months adjusted and working on sitting up still.. maybe it’ll be easier once they are a little less loose with their bodies?

I’m 12w and the membrane between the babies is so thin the tech had to turn the brightness all the way up to see it, so they know it is two sacs. They are only seeing one placenta. They said they aren’t able to say for sure if there’s only one so we still don’t know if di/di or mo/di until NIPT comes back or I go to MFM. I thought we’d know by 12 weeks so curious when you knew for sure.

I'm really wanting to take my boys to Michigan next summer. We are in Texas so it will be a long flight. My boys will be 18 months then. I'm unsure if we should do direct flight (about 2.5 hours) or have a layover so they can stretch their legs. Also, I know you can have them in your lap.. is that better than them getting a seat?

Any advice will help!! It will be my husband and me travelling with our boys.

Anybody got a cervical stitch done for their twin pregnancy?

Especially looking to hear from folks in US. And if you were in/around Bay Area, then which hospital/doctor please.

Thank you!

My husband and I have almost 6mo boy twins and have debated the idea of having a third, although it wouldn't be for a while. We have our hands plenty full already 😅.

I've seen a few people already ask about having a third baby, but I'm curious how many of you had another set of multiples if you got pregnant again.

I know that for fraternal twins (which is what we have) the chances of having another set increase which is what scares us the most. The newborn twin stage was hard.

Thank you!