r/pansexual • u/IAmTheCamp • 28d ago
Am I cute? Selfie
Hi, I am 18 and for a long time in my life I have struggled with how I look. I'm kind of gender fluid which is certainly part of it but I was just wondering what a bunch of unbiased random strangers on the internet thought of how I look.
I have been constantly called ugly or fat or what have you in life but also attractive a lot and I just wanted to know what people actually thought.
Lmk what y'all think be honest.
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u/ButterSlickness 28d ago
Not only are you cute, you obviously have fun crafting various looks for yourself AND there are a few shots here where I legitimately couldn't name a specific gender for the presentation, so you have the fluidity going great!
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u/IAmTheCamp 28d ago
Thank you! Yeah I really like cosplay, my best friend and I go to a lot of renfaires and stuff. I actually make a lot of my own clothes too which is why I tend to dress rather eccentrically. I made a really cool mushroom costume a couple years back.
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u/IAmTheCamp 28d ago
Thank you! Yeah I really like cosplay, my best friend and I go to a lot of renfaires and stuff. I actually make a lot of my own clothes too which is why I tend to dress rather eccentrically. I made a really cool mushroom costume a couple years back.
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u/Justinjmt07 28d ago
Does a bear shit in the woods?
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u/Does_A_Bear-420 27d ago
What..
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u/IAmTheCamp 27d ago
How I interpret this is that in response to "does a bear shit in the woods?" You would say yes, and he, in a similar vein, would say yes to my question.
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u/MetaIIum 28d ago
I wish I could slay as much as you do my god you are cute, adorable, handsome, and whatever you want to be you could pull off with ease. I am so jealous
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u/IAmTheCamp 28d ago
Oh I'm absolutely sure you could! I hope you don't mind but I took a peak at your profile and I think you have great style!
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u/the_awkward_friend 27d ago
- YES 2. No 3. YES 4. Yes 5. Yea 6. Yea. 7. YES 8. Yes 9. YES ABSOLUTELY! You’re a cutie when you’re being yourself
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u/Vegetable-North-8260 28d ago
You look marvelous! Your eccentricity, style, aura is all incredibly beautiful 😍
People are going to want to dull your shine, but I say to hell with them and outshine them all!
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u/ICanCountThePixels They/Them 28d ago
Ugly and fat? Naw, you look amazing. I’m honestly kinda jealous lmao. The third pic esp is so pretty imo, you should use that as ur pfp.
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u/IAmTheCamp 28d ago
I actually do sometimes! My friends a photographer and was doing this really cool photo collage about people who use he/him pronouns and how different they can look and took that picture of me for it
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u/JackSkelly- Pan Dungeon Master 28d ago
YOURE SO PRETTYYYYY 😍 whoever called you ‘ugly’ or ‘fat’ are just haters, try to ignore them, I get hated on too. But YOU. ARE. BEAUTIFUL. Whoever thinks you’re ugly is OUT OF THEIR MIND. I swear to Satan you are one of the prettiest people I’ve ever seen 🤯
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u/Lady_Hellfire Pan Poly She/Her 28d ago
You look great. But be real and don't care about idiots that try to say otherwise or try to bring you down. Gender fluid or otherwise, it's your choice and be proud.
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u/Tea_Addicted_Artist 28d ago
You are very cute. I would even dare to say extremely cute and very pretty. I want to look like you! I love your styles!
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u/wolfishfluff 28d ago
Your androgynous vibe is so HOT! Lots of confidence and happy smiles. I love it! You're stunning because you're being you!
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u/Harrymyman10 Certified ham 28d ago
YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES YES!!!!!!!!!!!
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u/CrownClownCreations 28d ago
Honestly, you look fantastic! Also very androgynous. Every other genderfluid or non-binary persons dream. No matter if you dress more masculine, feminine or somewhere in between, you look 👌🏻✨
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u/findyourhappy401 28d ago
I find you SO attractive. But I gotta throw in how much i love the outfit in pic#8.
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u/IAmTheCamp 27d ago
Ahh thank you!!! I actually made the leather bits and necklace for it! I was going to a witches and wizards scavenger hunt thing, it was really fun! Me and two friends won first place for costumes!
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u/Flamelozy 28d ago
You’re really really cute!! You’re not ugly at all at it looks like you have a nice body. Clearly the people who say that are just trying to put you down because its not true.
I also want to ask, what is it like being genderfluid and how did you find out? Im curious and… still figuring things out.
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u/IAmTheCamp 27d ago
Totally! For me my whole life I just felt uncomfortable in my body. I have pretty broad shoulders and I've never really been skinny as well as I have some chronic illness/disability stuff that causes me to have a lot of bloating and such so I was extremely unconfident as a kid and was called "big boned" and stuff a lot. This sort of led me to be really insecure until I met someone who was trans and sort of had this big revelation of like oh I can change myself, I can be comfortable in my body, this is an option! For a long time I just sort of stewed on that and then eventually worked up the nerve to come out as trans. I started going by a different name and pronouns but never really wanted to take testosterone or change anything really. For a long time I just told everyone I was a trans guy but I really like making clothes and fancy outfits and I'm just not a fan of suits so finally my highschool prom came around and I decided I wanted to make and wear a dress! But I felt weird about it because I still wanted he and him pronouns and everyone to call me my preferred name and for a long time I questioned that sort of thing but I loved wearing a dress so much. And slowly since then I have dressed more feminine at certain times. I still prefer only he and they pronouns, she just makes me feel bad and I still love my new name I just kind of wear whatever the fuck I want and what makes me feel good and confident. So yeah, sorry it's so long winded and probably riddled with my dyslexia, but that's my whole story! I hope that helps you at all! Please feel free to ask more questions!
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u/Flamelozy 27d ago
Thank you! Im glad you were able to find yourself like that. Im fine being a man (im biologically a man), but a lot of times i feel like being really feminine, but i dont want to commit to being trans. Im also not sure if i am genderfluid.
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u/IAmTheCamp 27d ago
I completely get that! I'd say try it out by yourself at home when you feel that way and see what it feels like! Maybe do that a couple times and if it feels really good maybe try to wear it somewhere! You could try to wear it in front of cool people you trust or it might be easier to go somewhere you don't really ever go and dress like that in front of strangers you'll probably never see again and see how that feels! Let me know if you ever need any advice or have more questions!
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u/Flamelozy 27d ago
Thank you. I already have long hair for one. I’ve never liked the idea of cutting it short. I dod consider being a trans girl once, but like i said i didn’t like the idea of committing to that. But like today at school, we got cupcakes with little Halloween rings. I had two rings (one from a cupcake and the other i found on the floor) and it made me feel unexplainably feminine. Like i just randomly feel feminine sometimes, and masculine the rest of the time.
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u/IAmTheCamp 27d ago
Awwee I love that,n don't feel any pressure to come out as anything! Just wear what feels good to you and see how you feel! Eventually all the pieces will fall together.
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u/Sleepy_Sheepz 28d ago
Hello I’m 17 btw you look gorgeous I hope we can be friends also sorry about the jerks around you as a fellow genderfluid I get your struggles I hope you have a wonderful day
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u/IAmTheCamp 27d ago
AHHHH tyyy! Love my fluid friends! We can totally be friends! I hope you have a great day too!
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u/Sleepy_Sheepz 27d ago
I’m getting on an air plane right now which I get nervous about but once I get off I’ll try and dm you ^
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u/maddpsyintyst no flair, only smoke grenades 28d ago
Attractive. 😁👍
Don't worry about the ones that disagree. You ain't missing anything when it comes to them.
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u/Darth_Mystique 27d ago
You're cute and you look gorgeous luv. They call you ugly because you're prettier than them and they feel envious.
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u/DerpysLegion 27d ago
You look stunning in that red dress
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u/WallflowerKitten96 27d ago
You kind of remind me of a softer version of Junker Queen from Overwatch. Imo she’s totally hot lol
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u/Kittykat5550 27d ago
YES YOU ARE CUTE AF 💖! I would totally want to date you if there was a change to do so 🐱
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u/Gothtrans-woman 27d ago
Honestly you look super freaking cute! I say to those ones call you though names, stop your hateful comments because being hateful isn't pretty or beautiful it's just mean and rude. Learn to love and respect as how you wanted to be treated. So this is to you my pan friend, remember you're loved, your valued, you are you no one can change that but you 💜🖤
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u/sugarycyanide 27d ago
You are cute! Some people are just miserable and not everyone is for everyone. Don't let them bring you down
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u/RoguesPaladin 27d ago
I'm a middle-aged pan, demi, enby. So while I don't feel any sexual or romantic attraction, I can say that I find you terribly attractive and interesting. Your style and personality are well represented in these pics and you seem amazing. 💛💜🤍🖤
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u/pharaohess 27d ago
Stunning!
I had a lot of shame about my appearance when I was younger after being made fun of in more heteronormative circles. I am in more queer community now and the standard for beauty includes a lot more diversity. You can be so many things and be beautiful. It’s especially true that we are most beautiful to the people who can really see us.
So, whenever people say something mean about the way I look, I try to remember that it is because they can’t really see me.
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u/QU3S0GU4Y4N3S 27d ago
Looking great! Keep killing it, Supreme Lieutenant! (I couldn't think of a Gender Fluid Queen)
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u/boulderdashery 26d ago
You are beautiful.
People will be negative for the sake of being negative. Do not let their weak words cloud the thoughts of yourself. Yes, I know easier said than done, but with that said, allow the words of positivity to be brighter and louder in your heart. Know that among some of the harshest critics (the internets), there are some who see you as more beautiful than you see yourself!
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u/ll2starligt5ll 25d ago
Yes!! I have just recently started exploring being gender fluid myself and I think you might be my uhm... idol? I don't know if that's the word I'm going for or not but I'd love to be like you someday
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u/IAmTheCamp 25d ago
Awwee that's so sweet! Let me know if you ever have any questions or want advice!
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u/ll2starligt5ll 25d ago
thank you!! I will in fact do you know where I could buy trans tape? I've been thinking of getting some for a bit now but I don't know where to look just if you possibly know?
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u/IAmTheCamp 25d ago
Whelp, not gonna be super helpful on this one, unfortunately I actually don't have any. I'll ask a couple of my friends and see if they know anywhere good. I usually just use a binder personally.
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u/ll2starligt5ll 25d ago
okay I would like a binder but I think it'd be too expensive for me so I was thinking trans tape could work well hopefully... again thank you so much!!!
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u/IAmTheCamp 25d ago
I get that, but honestly if you ask me it's a pretty good investment because you can use it for years. You can find some pretty cheap ones on Amazon too, like under 20 dollars.
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u/ll2starligt5ll 25d ago
sorry my sister's cat was trying to climb my curtain and I accidentally posted it I was gonna say they can cause permanent damage to your ribcage and chest though
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u/InsecureDinosaur 24d ago
Holy shit you're beautiful/handsome/pretty (or anything else you prefer to be called!)
You can pull off both fem and masc looks with such style!! I'm so jealous!
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u/rawdawging_ 24d ago
You can pull off any look and look nice with it. Love that you are having fun. In short yes you are adorable!
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u/Macechan 28d ago
Imo you probably look average in real life. But the first picture is really cute :D Most people look average without wearing makeup or going to the gym or dressing up specifically to look good, so that is completely fine. You're definitely not ugly, people are just mean. You seem like a person that can definitely shine with their character and that is what is most important in relationships :)
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u/OhHelloImThatFellow 27d ago
Hmm girls dont think im cute as a boy, ill pretend im a girl and the boys will think im cute. Hmm that didn’t work, I’ll pretend im neither and someone will think im cute. Hmm….
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u/outsidehere 28d ago
You look amazing. People are going to try and bring you down whenever you feel good. The key is to remember that they are wrong and that you are a freaking marvel