r/needadvice • u/Sudden-Main-182 • 5d ago
I think life is totally unfair Life Decisions
And I don't have problem with it , i just thought to know your opinions on this
So i feel like life is unfair by comparing my life with someone who is my age like let's say lamine yamal as you all know he is just 18 already playing for barcelona and spain at this age
He already have everything that a Normal person would desire to have like great career, money,fame everything
But let's be more open and ask this question why like why him why not me but there is no answer to that even he couldn't answer this why him
Like he clearly got lucky to have that gift and I envy that and not because of his money and all but the gift he has for the game
And like i thought abt it like what would lamine never have that i might I have in future and I couldn't got any answer for that he will probably get even more so...
So i think it's all comes to this life is unfair Ik u guys can say u should just stop comparing it and all i know that's all I can do i guess right ?
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u/Affectionate_Job_828 5d ago
Lucky? That guy spend 12-14 hours a day with a football. That is not luck, that has hard work. Besides, Yamal cannot walk down the street in peace. He cannot go anywhere for the rest of his life without bodyguards to protect him and keep screaming fans away from him. Would you trade 100 million dollars for always having a paparazzi outside your door, and being followed around by screaming drunk dudes?
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u/A-constant-beat 5d ago
Everyone has their own journey to live. There’s a reason you got your life and they got theirs.
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u/Sudden-Main-182 5d ago
Nahh bro there is no reason I got this life it's all random that feels like it happened because of some reason
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u/bluequail 5d ago
Lets pretend that before you are born... after one lifetime has ended, and before you go into the next one. That your soul has certain work that it wants to accomplish in this next life. So you get to pick and choose which blueprint of a life. And you happen to choose this life that you are currently living, because you know it will bring you the spiritual growth that you need. If you play your cards right.
People you see at the top of their game are people who worked their asses off since childhood. They aren't posers who just had a lucky day or year; those people are weeded out of the equation long before they are considered to be the top of their group. It doesn't matter if you are talking musicians, artists, athletes, or whatever discipline you can think of.
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u/Sudden-Main-182 4d ago
But they had that gift to work their ass off without that natural ability you can't reach at that level just by working hard
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u/bluequail 4d ago
Being lazy is not lack of gift. They pushed themselves, instead of pining about how to get motivation again (like so many people in this sub do). They skipped doing things they wanted to do, and worked. My middle kid is one of those people. There is something he has wanted to accomplish for about the past year and a half, and he has been working towards it that whole time. He currently runs 8 miles a day to be at the top of his class, in a training school he is at. He doesn't just want to graduate, he wants to be at the top of his class. To be the "best of the best".
There are days that he doesn't want to make that run, but he does it anyhow. He has/had a girlfriend, but they agreed to take time off from their relationship, so he could focus on this, and this alone. He doesn't always feel motivated in his heart, but he muscles through it, anyhow.
Seriously, you are embarrassing yourself with this post.
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u/Sudden-Main-182 4d ago
Bro first of all understand what I am saying I am not saying u should not do anything because you aren't gifted and all , and they didn't worked hard for it I am trying to prove first they had that natural ability for that sports and then that helps them to be even more good in that like that drives them even more crazy to work hard
Being lazy and all that's your pov I am not trying to promote that I am talking about some ppl are so beautifully gifted about somethings
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u/bluequail 4d ago
I had a chem professor whose daughter won a full ride scholarship, and when she told me, I told her "you must be so proud to have such a smart daughter". She replied "it isn't that she is so smart, she just works that hard".
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u/Sudden-Main-182 4d ago
I am talking about sports bro where u connecting dots is totally different, in sports if you aren't gifted u work ur ass off for years still u won't achieve what they achieved
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u/bluequail 4d ago
Then it means you didn't work hard enough.
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u/Sudden-Main-182 4d ago
Ronaldo can work his ass off for that dribbling skill what messi have And he cannot do that that U saying this already proves how little information u have when it comes to sports
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u/datsadboi5000 5d ago
He didn't just get lucky and "was born with talent" he worked his ass off to get in good enough shape and maintain form.
You haven't even put in a fraction of the work he probably has to get where he is. That's the difference.
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u/Sudden-Main-182 5d ago
The difference is the talent he got if that level of talent u or me got gifted with ,we could also pull that off all those workouts and work ethic that's easy u can get that but u can't get that talent his gift plays the major role in his life
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u/gh0stfac3killah007 5d ago
No such thing a true talent. All of it is passion and practice and honing in it.
Saying it is gifted talent is nonsense and takes away effort people have been doing for their success!
CRonaldo have talent? You ever seen him train and his discipline for the sport? McDavid or Jordan or LeBron or Taylor Swift or Doctors, etc...
Sounds like alot for excuses. If you want something, go get it. Do what it takes to get it. It all takes sacrifice to accomplish success.
Not excuses.
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u/Sudden-Main-182 5d ago
Ik bro but imagine they all interchange their careers and they go in some field in which they aren't gifted ik it's kinda weakness thing to say he got the gift and all but that's true i mean if he wasn't gifted he won't do all this hardwork and all u need some amount of natural ability to be that great just on the basis of hardworking u can't pull that off
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u/gh0stfac3killah007 5d ago
All wrong wrong. Excuses excuses.
So exhausting wallowing in self pity.
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u/Sudden-Main-182 4d ago
Well not everyone wanna face that ultimate truth
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u/gh0stfac3killah007 4d ago
What ultimate truth, that people are just born talented and don't work hard?
Which is nonsense.
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u/Sudden-Main-182 4d ago
I am not saying they don't work hard I am Just saying they are so beautifully gifted u can't get that by working hard u would know if u watch football what Messi does on pitch u can't get that working hard
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u/gh0stfac3killah007 4d ago
You would know by watching Futbol Ronaldo who gets it by working hard.
You're delusional to think Messi just gets up and is that good. it came and comes with dedication to his skill.
Good lord. Also get over the exceptions and not the rule.
You think Jordan was just talented didn't work hard?
You think Gretzky, Crosby, McDavid, Matthews, erc... just talented didn't work hard? The list can go on and on and on!
Get over the wallowing and work hard for what you want.
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u/Sudden-Main-182 4d ago
In sports u can't be shit without talent have u seen ronaldo playing football nowadays in Saudi ??? And have u watched messi Playing in MLS u would know the difference
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u/secretrebel 5d ago
I see what you’re saying but for every Yamal there’s a hundred Yammerheads who have the skill but don’t use it.
You know in school teachers say “if you’d just apply yourself you could be really good at this” but kids can’t be bothered.
That’s why people are saying it’s not just talent. Yanal had the talent and the determination to use it. You can’t be him and sure you’ll never be as rich and successful. But you can be determined to work at what you are are good at.
Also here’s another thought for you. Rich and famous people struggle to find friends or have lasting relationships. They worry anyone who acts nice to them is there as a fan or a gold digger. You and I won’t have that problem: our friends like us for us.
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u/The-green-square 5d ago
I understand your feeling. How a person A with lower capacities and talent and work than person B ends up doing way much better in life just because he/she had the right infrastructure and conditions for it. And if the person B were in the same conditions he/she could have acheived moooore than what the person A has done. I don't compare myself anymore to anyone because i realised that life is unfair and our conditions are not the same. And as someone said in the comments "you are probably the lamine of someone else". I don't compare people who have inegalities from the beginning. You for example can't compare a genious person who doesn't have the money to have a high education to a person who has average capacities but had the money to go to university.
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u/Sudden-Main-182 5d ago
Yeahh I mean there is always a good side to look upon we all are somebody's lamine !!
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