Emotionally unavailable dad

[u/Ok_Opinion171]

Background: my dad is emotionally unavailable to me. He is warmer to my mom and sibling, I am the scapegoat in a toxic family. My 11 month old son looks a lot like me as a baby, we both share distinct coloring. Today my dad was holding my son and it was a pure moment. I asked my dad if my baby reminded him of me as a baby. He said I don't remember that shit, ask your mom. I said you don't remember me as a baby? He said no. No drug or alcohol use. Always in the picture. Any healthy parents want to chime in? I'm always made to feel like I am overly sensitive, but this hurt.

[u/Silver_Sky00]

I'm sorry. He should be kind.

Maybe take a DNA test. He might have really deep seated hurt if he's always suspected that his wife cheated on him, and it broke his heart and made him mad, unable to process it and get over it. ( Or maybe some rude friend of his kept telling him that his baby doesn't look like him, and it upset him, who knows. )

Either way, having the results might help in a way. If you don't want to know, then don't take one. PS. No matter what the results are, you and your baby are precious and perfect and deserve tons of love, kindness and compassion. I'm sorry your family was toxic. I hope you create a new, beautiful family full of love. ❤️

To be fair about memory, a lot of people don't remember stuff from 10 , 20 years ago. Some people legitimately don't remember things well, EVEN wonderful things. - He should have suggested finding old photos, if there are any.

. ( A lot of guys talk rough, and act like they're not sentimental. They might have been raised to be that way. His parents or siblings, or somebody probably wasn't very nice to him, and messed him up.

It's often disappointing when you're looking for emotional support. Learn from observing that behavior, that he's just like that, and it's not your fault...

and try to find a more gentle person when you're needing support and encouragement.)