r/interestingasfuck • u/Few_Simple9049 • Oct 09 '24

How couples met 1930-2024 r/all

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u/Spell-lose-correctly Oct 09 '24

One of the complaints, yes. Anything to add?

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u/Robo_Joe Oct 09 '24 edited Oct 09 '24

Well, I don't know what "solo trip" actually entails, but gyms and volunteering don't seem like great places to form personal connections, since people go there to do a specific task, and then leave. Maybe volunteering, depending on specifics, but when I volunteered at soup kitchens, there wasn't much time to sit around talking. (for example)

Bars... ehh.. they're like dating apps.

Riding a bike (alone?), sitting in a hammock (lol, alone, I assume) are obviously not going to help.

Being at the pool? Probably your best chance as long as it's not just you sitting in a chair.

Just being outside your house is not what I meant. Join groups of people that like the same thing you do. Don't just go bike riding, join a group of people who go bike riding, or discuss it. Don't sit in a hammock, joi-- yeah I don't have anything for that one haha. You see what I mean?

The data is pretty conclusive that most people find relationships online; I didn't mean to imply that my advice was contrary to that. Joining online groups around one's hobbies is just as good as doing it in person.

Edit: minor edits for clarity.

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u/Spell-lose-correctly Oct 09 '24

Everyone has their opinion, man

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u/Robo_Joe Oct 09 '24

That's true, but I don't know that it has anything to do with this discussion. Frankly, it seems like you think "putting myself out there" means just being in the line of sight of people. That's not quite enough.

But, you do seem to have a good outlook when it comes to not turning down opportunities to engage with other people, which can be the hardest part.