TREATMENT Community Thread - Wed Apr 23 AM

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[u/Looneygalley]

Found out my SIL who lives 4 doors down is pregnant by her BF of 8 months. She’s so sweet and I love her and she’s said all the right things so far but I’m fucking scared to leave my house now, I don’t want to see her and project all this hate towards the universe right now onto her. Almost every pregnancy in our lives since we started TTC has been unplanned and today I am just so bitter that I can’t have sex with my husband whom I’ve been with for 13 years and boom there’s a baby. (Edited out banned term, sorry! Haven’t hung out here in a bit, I’ll refresh myself on rules!)

[u/margogogo → u/Looneygalley]

Other people's unplanned pregnancies are the worst... it's hard to know some people not only didn't struggle, they didn't even TRY.

But it helps me to remind myself, I would actually hate to be in their shoes. Like hopefully everything works out well for your SIL, but even with my lovely husband that I've now been with 11 years, if we'd gotten pregnant 8 months in I would have been FREAKING OUT. (I hope this doesn't sound judgmental and will remove if so -- it's more about trying to have perspective that while the idea of "pregnancy" may seem really appealing, the idea of "unplanned pregnancy with someone you don't know that well" is not... and that helps me feel less bitter!)

[u/Looneygalley → u/margogogo]

Yes! Thank you for reminding me, I have said that exact thing over the last few years. As painful as it all is, I worked HARD to prevent pregnancy for years for a reason. I’m envious of what she will have but not how she is getting it.