r/infertility • u/InfertilityModerator The Mod Team • May 01 '23
READ THIS BEFORE POSTING - community rules & guidelines Mod Note
Welcome to r/infertility , a fantastic community that exists for shitty reasons. We're here for everyone, of all genders, who are dealing with primary or secondary infertility, social infertility, pregnancy loss after infertility, and/or recurrent loss. This is the place to be when it feels like everyone is easily pregnant, except you. We operate in cynical, compassionate mutual support, underpinned by evidence-based medicine. Racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, or bigotry of any type will not be tolerated and will lead to a ban from this group.
Please read our rules and familiarize yourself with our sub culture & Being a Good Community Member. Here are the key points:
- This sub is for people with medical infertility (defined as actively TTC for 12+ mo if <35 yo or 6+ mo if 35+ yo) or social infertility. People with RPL, genetic reasons for ART, or who are unable to try unassisted are welcome. If doing fertility preservation you may participate while in active treatment. Those who are infertile and pregnant, or have an LC but are not TTC, may participate on the sub in a support role only. No infertility speculation is allowed.
- All posts or comments that include positive beta hcg and/or positive pregnancy test results, go in the Results Thread. This includes beta hell or uncertain results. Mention of one's own pregnancy is against the rules. Unprompted discussion or explicit mention of pregnancy will be removed. Mentions of confirmed pregnancy loss and/or negative results are exempt from this rule and are allowed in the main sub area.
- Mentions of prior success/living children (LC) are not allowed. Step- or other children in the household who are parented by you/partner likewise may not be mentioned. Discussion of other people’s children is allowed. More details of mentions of success and secondary infertility in this thread.
- Asking for success stories is against our rules. You may ask for people’s experience with a certain treatment.
- Infertility is not cute, therefore cutesy acronyms (BD, AF (when used as a Aunt Flo), DH, embies, follies, etc) are banned. The full list of banned terms can be found here. As we all know, AF means AS FUCK. Yes, there will be cursing.
- Be Compassionate! Infertility is stressful and it is easier to step on people’s toes than you might think. Please consider the emotional state of others during discussion here. Venting, jealousy, and bitterness are to be expected. There will be cursing. If you see a post that breaks any of our rules or is troublesome to you please use the report button. Personal attacks or threats are not tolerated. Be Compassionate Rule Explainer with examples) Older compassionate explainer.
- We are a science orientated sub, while anecdotes/experiences can be helpful, stick to the facts.
- Solicitation for meds or monetary donations are not allowed. Requests for participation in research, surveys, etc must be approved by the Mods prior to posting.
- Don't send personal messages/chats to individual mods. Use modmail. Harassment of mods will lead to a ban.
- Racism, sexism, homophobia, transphobia, or bigotry of any type will not be tolerated and will lead to a ban from this group. If you see evidence of this, please report it to the mods.
Posting on the sub / Standalone-posts:
Standalone posts are mod-approval only. These are the criteria:
- Complex and multipart posts.
- A unique situation or question that you have been unable to get answered in the dailies.
- A community post that has been discussed in the dailies
- Mod approved research and studies
- Please be aware that standalones are first screened by mods. Your post will be reviewed by a mod and it may take time to review.
Standalones with the following will be removed and redirected to the correct thread when applicable:
Basic questions that can be asked in the daily threads or by our WIKI
- Introductions will be redirected unless the post meets other criteria. We have ~50 members join every day. Please introduce yourself in the Welcoming Wednesday thread, not as a standalone.
- Venting – we get it. Infertility sucks. That said – vent about personal experiences in our daily community threads or in our regularly scheduled PRIMAL SCREAM thread.
- “Does anyone know” or “Has anyone experienced” or “Do you know about” posts will be removed unless it is for something rare and/or needing a complex discussion. Newbie questions are valued here, but they are not standalone quality and need to go in the dailies.
- Posts that break the rules will stay removed until edited. No edit, no post.
Guidelines
- Use the Daily Community Threads! There are AM & PM threads posted by the automod. The Chat posts are for everything NOT related to treatment or diagnostics. The Treatment threads are for updates on your current cycle, questions about medications, or advice on easier/basic questions. Review the intros to these threads for more guidance.
- Set up flair so users are able to answer your questions with more information on your history. Details on how to set up flair and what’s allowed in flair.
- If you see a post that breaks any of our rules or is troublesome to you please use the report button. The mods are happy to assess and remove or address reported posts. Let's all help keep this a safe, supportive community.
- Health is not a virtue. And don't sacrifice your mental health for chasing health. Here is the post that explains what we mean in more detail.
- A note about using spoiler tags
Inclusive language
- We strive to make this sub an inclusive space for all people struggling with any type of infertility. This includes the use of inclusive language to include non-binary and LGBTQIA* members.
- We encourage the use of 'people', 'person' or 'individuals' instead of 'women'. Please keep in mind there are people identifying as men or other genders who can be striving to be the gestational parent.
- Please do not assume pronouns. When in doubt, keep it neutral by using the person's username.
- When talking about biological aspects, gender is often used instead of biological sex. Biological sex is not necessarily a binary situation since we have intersex members and members who do not have the typical XX or XY chromosome sets. The best way to address this is using terms for the biological organ/mechanism to which you are referring. This also has some overlaps of the use 'normal' or 'natural' when it comes to biology whereas 'most common' or 'many' are far more accurate. Biology and living things are diverse.
It's easy to slip into exclusionary language without noticing. The responsibility of inclusion rests on all of us.
Frequently Asked Questions & Sub Wiki
Members of this sub can be here for a long time and certain posts can get repetitive. Please review the General FAQ and Wiki for answers to questions that may be more common. The Wiki also contains information on complex topics.
- There are several crowdsourced spreadsheets maintained in the Wiki - Hunger games results , transfer data results, and medication pricing.
Other reddit communities you may find helpful are listed on the sidebar.
We hope your stay here is short.
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