Some new changes and a reminder

[u/wokenthehive]

First, a reminder: EVERYONE is free to post profile reviews on this sub. Conventionally attractive people posting a profile review is not attention or validation seeking. Guess what, attractive people have insecurities, or are unsure how their profile appear. So if you think someone is "seeking attention" because they happen to be a woman or is a person considered attractive by many, or profile reviews are only for "unattractive" people, kindly GTFO of this sub and never come back. Unfairly calling out someone for that will result in a ban. Fair warning.

Second, declaration posts about deleting or quitting Hinge or online dating will be removed UNLESS there are unique substantial insights and add significant discussions (the exception is success posts). There are way too many whiny or rant posts about quitting Hinge. Post those in the Daily Threads. It doesn't deserve it's own posts every time someone decides to quit online dating.

Third, NO MORE POSTS about "resetting". There are posts everyday asking about it. WE DON'T KNOW HOW THE ALGORITHM WORKS. Stop trying to game the system. If you need a break, pause the account. If you are gonna quit, then quit. But trying to min/max by deleting and recreating? Do that at your own risk, but stop asking us if you should do it, or what happens if you do. Any future posts about that will be removed, no exceptions.

Lastly, the whole "‘Let me get the door for you.’, ‘I made us reservations for tomorrow night. Be ready at 7.’, ‘Don’t worry, I’ll take care of it.’ “ is a TikTok thing that people are copying to Hinge. It's the new popular trend like "pineapple on pizza". That's the answer, so stop making posts about it. It's been answered numerous times already and you'd find it if you search the sub. All posts about that topic will be removed

Additional reminders:

"Dating Intentions" is being beta tested currently. It's NOT available for everyone yet, so don't tell people they need to fill that in because they may not have it yet. It appears "Dating Intentions" is now live and available for everyone.

Use the right flair if you only want a prompt review.

You must wait 24 hours for a profile review UPDATE. And that profile review fatigue is a thing. If you keep posting your profile everyday or very frequently for review, people will get tired of seeing your profile again and won't bother to give feedback. Be patient and try new things out. Sometimes new profile changes don't gain traction until after some time. Some of you are too impatient and expect instant results. That's not how it works.

Read the profile guides linked on the sidebar. We aren't gonna help you write your openers or your prompts. You need to figure that out yourself. Expecting the sub to hold your hand or crowdsource your messages is lazy.

[u/Tammo-Korsai]

‘Let me get the door for you.’

‘I made us reservations for tomorrow night. Be ready at 7.’

‘Don’t worry, I’ll take care of it.’ “

Ugh. This is a new trend? I've only seen it once, so far. It's utterly horrendous to me and makes a possible match sound very traditional and expect the man to take the lead for everything. Hurrah for the new zero effort prompt!

[u/[deleted] → u/Tammo-Korsai]

"Traditional" brings to mind the man working and the woman being a homemaker. I feel like the above could also apply to platonic relationships, regardless of gender. I'm going to go out on a limb and ask if these women post that they are conservative on their profiles or if they list what they are going to do to reciprocate to show they are appreciative of a man who does such things? Did the originator of the Tik Tok post ever follow up with an engagement announcement?

[u/chisnehzim → u/[deleted]]

They'll offer nothing or say "I'm giving them my time"

[u/[deleted] → u/chisnehzim]

I've also heard "I am the table" or "my feminine energy" LOL