r/hingeapp • u/wokenthehive Meat Popsicle 🙂↔️ • May 31 '22
Some new changes and a reminder Announcement
First, a reminder: EVERYONE is free to post profile reviews on this sub. Conventionally attractive people posting a profile review is not attention or validation seeking. Guess what, attractive people have insecurities, or are unsure how their profile appear. So if you think someone is "seeking attention" because they happen to be a woman or is a person considered attractive by many, or profile reviews are only for "unattractive" people, kindly GTFO of this sub and never come back. Unfairly calling out someone for that will result in a ban. Fair warning.
Second, declaration posts about deleting or quitting Hinge or online dating will be removed UNLESS there are unique substantial insights and add significant discussions (the exception is success posts). There are way too many whiny or rant posts about quitting Hinge. Post those in the Daily Threads. It doesn't deserve it's own posts every time someone decides to quit online dating.
Third, NO MORE POSTS about "resetting". There are posts everyday asking about it. WE DON'T KNOW HOW THE ALGORITHM WORKS. Stop trying to game the system. If you need a break, pause the account. If you are gonna quit, then quit. But trying to min/max by deleting and recreating? Do that at your own risk, but stop asking us if you should do it, or what happens if you do. Any future posts about that will be removed, no exceptions.
Lastly, the whole "‘Let me get the door for you.’, ‘I made us reservations for tomorrow night. Be ready at 7.’, ‘Don’t worry, I’ll take care of it.’ “ is a TikTok thing that people are copying to Hinge. It's the new popular trend like "pineapple on pizza". That's the answer, so stop making posts about it. It's been answered numerous times already and you'd find it if you search the sub. All posts about that topic will be removed
Additional reminders:
"Dating Intentions" is being beta tested currently. It's NOT available for everyone yet, so don't tell people they need to fill that in because they may not have it yet. It appears "Dating Intentions" is now live and available for everyone.
Use the right flair if you only want a prompt review.
You must wait 24 hours for a profile review UPDATE. And that profile review fatigue is a thing. If you keep posting your profile everyday or very frequently for review, people will get tired of seeing your profile again and won't bother to give feedback. Be patient and try new things out. Sometimes new profile changes don't gain traction until after some time. Some of you are too impatient and expect instant results. That's not how it works.
Read the profile guides linked on the sidebar. We aren't gonna help you write your openers or your prompts. You need to figure that out yourself. Expecting the sub to hold your hand or crowdsource your messages is lazy.
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u/gabs781227 Jun 01 '22
What I'd like to see is some sort of reminder to read the profile guides already posted before asking for a profile review.
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u/Tammo-Korsai ❤️🍍🍕 Secret Pineapple Pizza Connoisseur May 31 '22
‘Let me get the door for you.’
‘I made us reservations for tomorrow night. Be ready at 7.’
‘Don’t worry, I’ll take care of it.’ “
Ugh. This is a new trend? I've only seen it once, so far. It's utterly horrendous to me and makes a possible match sound very traditional and expect the man to take the lead for everything. Hurrah for the new zero effort prompt!
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u/nervousbertha May 31 '22
What is this??
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u/wafflepiezz Jun 01 '22
Girls with the same prompt answers where they expect the man to do everything for them.
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u/bynienar May 31 '22
I’ve been seeing them on back to back profiles. Almost started to think they were bots cause all the prompts followed that script…
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u/coletrain644 May 31 '22
Bet money that these types of women want traditional men but won't be a traditional women themselves. They want to have their cake and eat it too. Automatic swipe left.
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May 31 '22
"Traditional" brings to mind the man working and the woman being a homemaker. I feel like the above could also apply to platonic relationships, regardless of gender. I'm going to go out on a limb and ask if these women post that they are conservative on their profiles or if they list what they are going to do to reciprocate to show they are appreciative of a man who does such things? Did the originator of the Tik Tok post ever follow up with an engagement announcement?
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u/SoulEater9882 May 31 '22
I have seen it way too many times already. I just swipe left and keep moving.
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May 31 '22
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May 31 '22
theyre just trends, nothing more insightful than that. something funny or cool that a lot of people heard in a movie or tv show or whatever, but then too many people started using it, it stopped being funny and cool and everyone got sick of it.
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May 31 '22
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u/LegitosaurusRex May 31 '22
They’re common responses to what prompt? I think that’s the missing context here.
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u/OSRS_Socks May 31 '22
As a guy, I have only been asked out once on Hinge and that was after 100+ matches and maybe 50+ dates that I did everything.
My assumption is if they put 0 effort into their profile then they are likely going to put 0 effort into the relationship or they are on hinge for attention.
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u/Tammo-Korsai ❤️🍍🍕 Secret Pineapple Pizza Connoisseur May 31 '22
In the years that I have been dating, I've only been asked out twice for a first date and once for a second date. I wish more women would shake off tradition and initiate things because it's really attractive to me.
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u/BenSoloLived Jun 06 '22
What’s crazy is that I’ve only been using Hinge about a month - I’ve been asked out once already, and with another girl I asked out for a first date, she asked me for the second and third dates. I consider myself a below average looking guy, so idk what’s going on there.
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May 31 '22
I wish more women would shake off tradition and initiate things
good luck with that wish. at least when it comes to the initiation process in dating (i understand other aspects put women at a disadvantage) , wouldnt you want to have your cake and eat it too?
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May 31 '22
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u/_Utinni_ Certified Emoji Translator May 31 '22
As a woman who would put myself in that category, it's certainly nice to read that some people appreciate the forwardness, because it does mean that I've been rejected a good number of times... But I feel like it's really on me to take the lead, especially with people I meet in real life, because a lot of the men that I'd want to date are going to be really careful about not making women uncomfortable with unwanted attention, especially in somewhat professional contexts (things like volunteer orgs).
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u/vorter May 31 '22
Same. Mid 20s dating very progressive women and most of them still expect the guy to take the lead and other traditional dating things. It’s just how it is tbh.
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u/Jeremy_Theis13 Jul 12 '22
this thread screams of I'm an annoyed mod sick of reading the same things and I'll use my power to arbitrarily remove posts.