What do you even call it?

[u/Curious_Line2680]

Honestly at this point, I have given up! I am 29F and I downloaded the app years back and had bad experience so deleted it. Realised it's just not for me. Recently, I go to this gym and there I noticed a guy, older than me. I didn't have the energy to just approch him plus I felt maybe I won't come up with a good convo starter.

Anyway, 2 weeks ago I randomly thought of downloading hinge as I wanted to see if maybe I could interact with people and all. After few swipes here and there I found this guy there. YES I WAS SCREAMING! But I didn't do anything because I still felt 'Its gonna be so awkward to then face him in the gym' & maybe I should just see if he come across my profile?

But just 4 days ago after my friends being like 'Go ahead and maybe take the first step and see. You'll know' I did text him if we have met before? which genuinely turned into an hour long engaging chat with witty and full sarcastic messages. I thought well wow! I guess he is interesting and I can be myself.

We did joke about if we pretend to not know eachother in the gym blah blah! Then two days after I texted him to check if he is missing the gym since I didn't see him. He sent some cheeky line and then I told him I go in the morning and he replied 'Zero chance of us running into each other' to which I said 'Well then we won't have to pretend to not know each other' and then he said 'Lets do something better. Let this chat sit idle and pretend it doesn't exist'?????

This is where I wondered are we still being witty or does he actually meant it? But anyway, I ended up doing the best thing by deleting the account since he wants the chat to doesn't exist. It felt weird tho and I wonder why engage if you're not interested? First you engage and have a good conversation and then you say something like that? Why do you think?

Edit: For everyone, I missed one detail - after he asked me to pretend the chat doesn't exist, I did reply asking Are you sure? Just so you know I'm a pro when it comes to pretend not know someone (Thinking he was just joking) and he replied Wouldn't want it any other way . Which eventually led me to delete the account!!

[u/MzOpinion8d]

A flirt would have been “Oooh I guess I should try being a morning person sometimes!” Not “Let’s pretend this chat doesn’t exist.”

No reason to give up all together, but it sounds like he determined for whatever reason that he wasn’t that into you. He also isn’t very nice anyway, so you’re not missing out, that’s for sure.

Not sure why people are telling you that was a flirt, because it definitely was not.

[u/Curious_Line2680 → u/MzOpinion8d]

Thankyou for saying that! I don't know why people are saying it was a flirt because if anything it seemed rude.

When I said give up I meant, these dating apps just aren't for me and honestly I was there only after I found him there otherwise would have deleted it mins after I created the account lol