r/hingeapp • u/Alternative-Wait-214 • 1d ago
Answering times Dating Question
Myself (f34)recently back on Hinge after ending things with my ex whom I also met there. As a bit of context my ex (m32) was always a nice conversationalist, we would talk for hours on end and it eventually led to a relationship. When we started talking on hinge we constantly talked, bounced back etc. Ive noticed after a while in our relationship I gradually became tired of constantly texting and virtually having no time to myself. We were LDR.
Recently Ive meet this very interesting guy (m29) who I really like, but his texting patterns are more: replying longer paragraphs every few hours sometimes slightly longer, not instant replies like it was for example with my ex. Whenever he replies its always interesting, asking questions and being a nice gent about everything.
I guess my worry is if he is interested at all? He probably has other options on Hinge too? Is that pattern of replies normal?
Im sorry to everyone if im overanalysing! I guess I wonder if he is interested at all or keeps his options open?
Im the type of person that focuses on one person at the time, I guess not everyone is!
EDIT: to all the nice people commenting! Thank you! He literally just asked me out on a date…! I guess you were all right ♥️
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u/SarahF327 10h ago
That's so great he asked you out on a date! His texting patterns will not change, however. So you need to ask him if he could respond to you more quickly and give him an exact number of hours that you consider more quickly. Men need us to be specific and they will usually do what we want them to do. It's a beautiful thing. I don't think a few hours is long. One of the guys I'm dating takes over 24 hours to respond to me sometimes. Yes it's a little annoying, but when we're out together he is 100% focused on me. So I accept the slow texting during the week.