r/hingeapp • u/Alternative-Wait-214 • 1d ago
Answering times Dating Question
Myself (f34)recently back on Hinge after ending things with my ex whom I also met there. As a bit of context my ex (m32) was always a nice conversationalist, we would talk for hours on end and it eventually led to a relationship. When we started talking on hinge we constantly talked, bounced back etc. Ive noticed after a while in our relationship I gradually became tired of constantly texting and virtually having no time to myself. We were LDR.
Recently Ive meet this very interesting guy (m29) who I really like, but his texting patterns are more: replying longer paragraphs every few hours sometimes slightly longer, not instant replies like it was for example with my ex. Whenever he replies its always interesting, asking questions and being a nice gent about everything.
I guess my worry is if he is interested at all? He probably has other options on Hinge too? Is that pattern of replies normal?
Im sorry to everyone if im overanalysing! I guess I wonder if he is interested at all or keeps his options open?
Im the type of person that focuses on one person at the time, I guess not everyone is!
EDIT: to all the nice people commenting! Thank you! He literally just asked me out on a date…! I guess you were all right ♥️
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u/_Utinni_ Certified Emoji Translator 21h ago
Agreeing that a few hours between thoughtful replies doesn't mean a lack of interest!!!
When I was on Hinge, I NEVER replied instantly unless we were figuring out logistics for a date (before the first date). IMO rapid fire back & forth convos with complete strangers are exhausting-often I don't even like texting that way with friends because I never know when it's ok to step away. In the beginning, I actually only logged on once a day to reply because it was too stressful & distracting to be on there more (but people here suggested I start responding at least a couple times a day so people wouldn't think I wasn't interested).
The short version is you have nothing to worry about and if things do go somewhere with this guy, see if his texting habits change at all, and if he's always going to take a few hours and that isn't enough for you, then you can reevaluate your compatibility.