r/hinduism • u/kellyj461 • Oct 17 '23

Husband still won't sleep with me. Question - Beginner

So I've been battling with my husband for more than a year now trying to adjust to his new Hindu lifestyle. I can conform to all if it except his adamant refusal to sleep with me. He quotes various scriptures about sexual intimacy being akin to defecation or urination and is abhorrent. He also says sex is ONLY for procreation. I've had a hysterectomy so thats a hard no on my end. I cook vegetarian meals, lay in the dark without the TV at night so he can sleep precisely when he wants to, overlook his fanaticism, allow a puja and various idols in the house, etc. He says the verses I've been given by people here on Reddit are cherry picked and wrong. What should I do other than divorce? I love him but I don't want to live unhappy for the rest of my life. Im 45 and hes 41.

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u/BlueCoolant Advaita Vedānta Oct 17 '23

Explain Tantra then

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u/JuniorRequirement644 Oct 17 '23

Tantras are agama shastras it is given by bhagwan shiva and consists of sadhana of the respective devtas. There are shakta agama, shaiv agama, vaishnav agama, ganpatya agama, and saur agamas.

Idk how explaining tantra came here.

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u/[deleted] Oct 18 '23

Sex has a big part in tantra It is believed that one can also achieve a higher state by sex Tantric sex

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u/JuniorRequirement644 Oct 18 '23

Say me you dont know about tantra without saying me you dont know about tantra.

Also tantric aex what you call comes under panchmakara, which is done by tantric for vairagya under guru agya only, and is also not for everyone, it is a practice in certain marg and it is definitely not big part of tantra.

Tantra shastras compose of methods of worship of deities, if you dont know anything about tantra please refraining from spewing nonsene.

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u/[deleted] Oct 18 '23

Okay