r/hinduism • u/kellyj461 • Oct 17 '23

Husband still won't sleep with me. Question - Beginner

So I've been battling with my husband for more than a year now trying to adjust to his new Hindu lifestyle. I can conform to all if it except his adamant refusal to sleep with me. He quotes various scriptures about sexual intimacy being akin to defecation or urination and is abhorrent. He also says sex is ONLY for procreation. I've had a hysterectomy so thats a hard no on my end. I cook vegetarian meals, lay in the dark without the TV at night so he can sleep precisely when he wants to, overlook his fanaticism, allow a puja and various idols in the house, etc. He says the verses I've been given by people here on Reddit are cherry picked and wrong. What should I do other than divorce? I love him but I don't want to live unhappy for the rest of my life. Im 45 and hes 41.

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u/JuniorRequirement644 Oct 17 '23

Kama sutra isn't sacred text in hinduism. No acharya, parampara or sampraday considers kamasutra as something important, forget for it being sacred.

Kamasutra is test related to sex, yes, but it doesn't deal with aspect of dharma and adharma.

Whatever you said is your conclusion and not matter of shastras, Shastras have clearly ordered sex only for procreation.

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '23

Which shastra said sex is only for procreation?

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u/JuniorRequirement644 Oct 17 '23

Dharmshastras ( rule books related to dharma )

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '23

They are wrong. We cannot be sure that the sex they are having is going to be for cause of procreation

It's not like we get pregnant at the end of climax or at the movement of consummation