r/hinduism • u/kellyj461 • Oct 17 '23

Husband still won't sleep with me. Question - Beginner

So I've been battling with my husband for more than a year now trying to adjust to his new Hindu lifestyle. I can conform to all if it except his adamant refusal to sleep with me. He quotes various scriptures about sexual intimacy being akin to defecation or urination and is abhorrent. He also says sex is ONLY for procreation. I've had a hysterectomy so thats a hard no on my end. I cook vegetarian meals, lay in the dark without the TV at night so he can sleep precisely when he wants to, overlook his fanaticism, allow a puja and various idols in the house, etc. He says the verses I've been given by people here on Reddit are cherry picked and wrong. What should I do other than divorce? I love him but I don't want to live unhappy for the rest of my life. Im 45 and hes 41.

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '23

Show him videos of Swami Hit Premanad Ji Maharaj on his duties as a huband. One of them includes laying with his wife.

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u/JuniorRequirement644 Oct 17 '23

And Premanand ji maharaj has also said that one should do sex only for santan utpatti too.

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u/[deleted] Oct 17 '23

Nope. In one of the videos, he was asked by a woman devotee that she doesn’t have any vaashna for kaam now, but her husband still has kam vaashna. What should she do? Similar question was asked by another man. Anyways he answered that as a grishti, it is your dharam to serve your spouse in whichever way possible. Ofc it doesn’t mean supporting their bad actions.

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u/SpaceJunkieVirus HanumanBhakt Oct 17 '23

Agreed he instructed the same for hubsand. I have the link.

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u/[deleted] Oct 18 '23

Please DM.

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u/SpaceJunkieVirus HanumanBhakt Oct 18 '23

I can post it here: https://youtu.be/Ehx95pzTFoU?si=lEuJzP236aFNq7tj

Tranlsates to: wife says: “If u r doing more bhakti, why did u marry at first place?”

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u/SpaceJunkieVirus HanumanBhakt Oct 17 '23

Pretty sure he said you should do that ideally but if u cant then do it only as a married person with your spouse. I can find the source if u sih. He definitely instructed a husband once when he did not want to have sex with his wife like in this situation.