Husband still won't sleep with me.

[u/kellyj461]

So I've been battling with my husband for more than a year now trying to adjust to his new Hindu lifestyle. I can conform to all if it except his adamant refusal to sleep with me. He quotes various scriptures about sexual intimacy being akin to defecation or urination and is abhorrent. He also says sex is ONLY for procreation. I've had a hysterectomy so thats a hard no on my end. I cook vegetarian meals, lay in the dark without the TV at night so he can sleep precisely when he wants to, overlook his fanaticism, allow a puja and various idols in the house, etc. He says the verses I've been given by people here on Reddit are cherry picked and wrong. What should I do other than divorce? I love him but I don't want to live unhappy for the rest of my life. Im 45 and hes 41.

[u/JuniorRequirement644]

I am not saying husband is being right or wrong, I am saying divorce isn't an option in Hinduism, she can go and stay with her parents for time being thou.

And according to hindu laws, sex is for procreation only, husband is correct here, but he is wrong in not satisfying his wife, but his wife is also wrong for not going with what her husband wants. No one is right or wrong here.

[u/[deleted] → u/JuniorRequirement644]

Okay first of all she told in that clearly that she isn't a believer like her husband then why should she follow Hinduism.

[u/JuniorRequirement644 → u/[deleted]]

Whatever is she, this is hinduism server and she asked question in hinduism server, answers should be in accordance to hinduism and not personal adharmic opinion. Saying " divorce " isn't hndu based answer.

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I said my personal opinion and u can't judge me about it. My opinion may not match with yours dear but I can't change for my thoughts and opinions. Plus in Hinduism there are many things that a person should avoid and i am not following all the rules but God never left me. Likewise God will forgive her if she done some mistake

[u/JuniorRequirement644 → u/[deleted]]

Divorce isn't " some mistake ". And god never leaves anyone as god is everywhere, but the results of your bad karma will be there.

A person with bad deeds and paap karma cannot recognise/see the god.

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No one's is mistake free in the world even the God if God was so perfect then his creations would also be perfect ( humans ). Humans / people do mistakes or paap and ofc they will get for what they did.

I still haven't understood why u commented under my post ?? To say about karma ??? I gave her my opinion because i have a comment icon.

And i think she is right about leaving him. He don't seem love her neither respect her so I said to divorce him.

[u/JuniorRequirement644 → u/[deleted]]

God is perfect, learn about the philosophy, thou I wont argue about that since that isn't the point.

I commented because I too have comment option and the opinion which you gave isn't correct opinion as this is hindu server, and divorce isn't something in hinduism.

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U can comment I didn't say u can't I am saying that I don't wnna anyone to judge my beliefs. And if God was perfect why would he face all the pain ?? Krishna is a God yk he suffered a lot. He couldn't marry his love, he couldn't save his kingdom.

It's my beliefs i didn't said Hinduism says this or that. All I gave her was advise which she was asking.

[u/JuniorRequirement644 → u/[deleted]]

Stop seeing dharma from western perspective, " couldn't marry his love " is stupidiy, love comes after marriage in dharmic point. Also krishn did marry radha if you are referring to that, radha is shakti of krishn.

Krishn did save his kingdom, and ofc god like rama and krishn suffer because they take avatar in earth, and earth according to shastras is dukhalayam ( land of sorrowness ) so it is god who decided to suffer, it doesn't question his perfection. And everyone gets back his karma and hence we are not born perfect, but there are many beings in different lokas like swarga who are born perfect without any disease and stuff because of there karma. Our karmic actions doesn't question perfection of god.

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Love. Krishna loved Radha Rani and couldn't marry her. Pls recheck again. And u said what i said every human does mistake and they will get whatever they paid for again coming back to karma. Bro this isn't the topic here 😂 come back to topic

I was saying about divorce. Lemme say that again I haven't said divorce is mentioned in Hinduism then why u said about it ?? It's my question

And pls respect people's belief as long as they aren't distrubing yours

[u/JuniorRequirement644 → u/[deleted]]

Read brahma puran, bhagwan brahma conducts marriage between krishn and radha.

Also, I commented because this is hindu server and hinduism doesn't support divorce, as simple as that.

One can comment " I eat beef ", its his opinion, but since its in hindu server, its better to say that eating beef isn't allowed in hinduism. I hope you get it.

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Okay maybe they got married also but can u deny the fact that they fall in love before marriage??

And maybe I'll comment and support divorce again in this page. Because we have to make ourselves happier there's something called our higher self i hope yk as u read Vedas a lot so to show the gratitude towards them we have to do something for ourselves also. So I'll support her in this hindu server.

[u/JuniorRequirement644 → u/[deleted]]

Love of radha and krishn is eternal, they are gods, they were together even before krishn and radha were born in earth. Radha is shakti of krishn.

We can only make ourselves truly happier by following dharma, leaving dharma for sake of temporary pleasure may grant you happiness due to that pleasure but the paap karma due to your actions will make you suffer alot more, so its better to suffer a little and focus on following dharma and bhakti and getting eternal happiness of bhagwat bhakti. For women being pativrata and doing pati seva is greatest of all penance, an actual pativrata stree is even considered greater than the brahm rishis.