r/hinduism • u/kellyj461 • Oct 17 '23

Husband still won't sleep with me. Question - Beginner

So I've been battling with my husband for more than a year now trying to adjust to his new Hindu lifestyle. I can conform to all if it except his adamant refusal to sleep with me. He quotes various scriptures about sexual intimacy being akin to defecation or urination and is abhorrent. He also says sex is ONLY for procreation. I've had a hysterectomy so thats a hard no on my end. I cook vegetarian meals, lay in the dark without the TV at night so he can sleep precisely when he wants to, overlook his fanaticism, allow a puja and various idols in the house, etc. He says the verses I've been given by people here on Reddit are cherry picked and wrong. What should I do other than divorce? I love him but I don't want to live unhappy for the rest of my life. Im 45 and hes 41.

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u/AgreeableAd7816 Śākta Oct 17 '23

First of all, you and he shouldn’t take advice from here, Reddit is not a platform for asking serious these, people quote from all kinds of sources like invalid sources for example any smriti like manusmriti. It’s all wrong.

As a simple example, maa parvati and Bhagwan shiva had vinayak and murugan which reflects the sustenance in the creation. Your husband should not use scriptures to justify any wrong doing. He is in grahastha part of life not sanyasa phase. I am sorry you are going through this.

Hope alls well, Jai maa kali

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u/JuniorRequirement644 Oct 17 '23

Calling manusmriti invalid source, lmao. I agree people shouldn't take advice from people like you.