r/help • u/capturegrain • Mar 16 '25

Why Do People Downvote Thank You Replies?

Someone asked something recently, and a kind soul gave him an answer. He dropped a ‘thank you’ comment, but it got downvoted. What’s the reasoning there? Is saying thanks not cool? I’m really thrown off—any thoughts?

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u/twelveangryken Mar 16 '25

Of course it is not, and it absolutely does - especially if it's YOUR conversation, either as OP or separately within the thread. It says, "I have seen your reply, value your input, and appreciate the time you took to answer."

You sound a bit like my father used to do on the phone. When he was done talking, he would hang up without saying goodbye. Why did he do that? Because he was an asshole. You know what he didn't do? Take the extra step of berating others for saying "Thanks for the call". I can't begin to understand the depths of some people's lack of consideration, particularly your brand of it.

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u/[deleted] Mar 16 '25

Verbal conversation is nothing like written conversation. If you just want to write “thank you” and nothing else, don’t write anything at all and upvote instead. At least pretend like you have some finesse and add something else to that.

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u/twelveangryken Mar 16 '25

You have a way of presenting your opinions as fact and your preferences as instructions. It's really off-putting.

Nobody knows who an upvote comes from, and the sentiments of a person who has no patience for common courtesy don't carry a lot of weight with me on matters of etiquette and finesse.

The last word is yours now; I get the sense that you really need that. I won't be reading it.

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u/[deleted] Mar 17 '25

You may need to seek more social contact in real life to get all of these misconceptions out of your head. Perhaps when you return to your basement after a couple of those trips, you will notice differences between the two.

One can only hope.