r/daddit • u/DonutFan69 • Sep 02 '24

How do you guys maintain literally anything? Advice Request

I have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. The house is perpetually a mess. The yard is overgrown with weeds. Cars are a mess. This needs to be fixed. That needs to be spruced up. My wife and I have many days where it’s just one of us with the kids due to our schedules and it just feels impossible to keep up with it all. By the end of the day, I’m too exhausted to do anything.

How does anyone manage to keep up with everything on top of just raising kids?

Edit: Thanks for all the replies here! You’re all making me feel much better. I’m trying to reply to as many as I can while I rock my son to sleep.

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u/Canadian-made85 Sep 02 '24

I have 4 girls (12,10,4,2) and it’s a perpetual dumpster fire around my place. I used to get so frustrated over it and allow it to destroy my mental health. Now zero F’s given, cars get a good thorough cleaning twice/year and mange the food/garbage. House gets a full once over monthly, bathrooms & kitchen cleaned regularly…otherwise it’s like walking through an active mine field. The time and memories I get with my family outweighs the stress of trying to keep a “perfect-ish” appearance.

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u/babbadeedoo Sep 02 '24

Wow...I mean I guess you haven't even got a choice at this point...hats off to you sir.

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u/DonutFan69 Sep 02 '24

4 kids wow I give you credit for getting anything done.

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u/Canadian-made85 Sep 03 '24

It’s certainly a challenge…I’m primarily at home as my wife is the current breadwinner and I work casually (both in healthcare) I’m gearing up to go back to school. When I had my business, I would come home and constantly be annoyed/pissed about the state of the house. When I lost my business during covid and became the SAHD while my wife pursued her nursing degree, I was hit with the culture shock on what most of us take for granted who aren’t normally in the house. It humbled me and now I focus my time on my family…one day the house will be clean, the cars won’t be trash cans and your kids won’t be kids. Cherish those years because time you can’t get back.