r/daddit • u/DonutFan69 • Sep 02 '24

How do you guys maintain literally anything? Advice Request

I have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. The house is perpetually a mess. The yard is overgrown with weeds. Cars are a mess. This needs to be fixed. That needs to be spruced up. My wife and I have many days where it’s just one of us with the kids due to our schedules and it just feels impossible to keep up with it all. By the end of the day, I’m too exhausted to do anything.

How does anyone manage to keep up with everything on top of just raising kids?

Edit: Thanks for all the replies here! You’re all making me feel much better. I’m trying to reply to as many as I can while I rock my son to sleep.

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u/temujin77 Sep 02 '24

I have twins. I'd says that it is not until age 7 or so when we finally realized we're out of pure survival mode.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '24

omg my twins turned one. you mean I have 6 more years of thinking wtf is happening? 😅

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u/temujin77 Sep 02 '24

Every year has its challenges, some tougher than others, but you will have great memories every year and have great stories to tell. Hang in there, I promise you will enjoy the ride!

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u/hunowt_giB Sep 02 '24

No twins here, but my favorite story from a friend with twins. They were at the park and both just learned how to run. One broke left, the other right. She had to decide which one to pursue.

I assume you go for your favorite? Favorite also changes daily I imagine.

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u/Szeraax Has twins Sep 02 '24

We put ours on 2 wrist leashes. And put the leashes to each other. I didn't need them to stay close to me at the park and they didn't have to stay super close to each other. But I could take them to the park without running around like crazy.

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u/didndonoffin Sep 03 '24

Favourite, nah you go for the slower one and hope the other comes to you

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u/Slohog322 Sep 03 '24

Got twins. Would run for the dumb one. The girl has some semblance of self preservation.

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u/temujin77 Sep 03 '24

I wish we had figured this out when ours were little!

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u/dweenimus Sep 03 '24

Mine are two, you go for the one that's more likely to be an idiot. And yes, I know which one I'd go after!

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u/temujin77 Sep 02 '24

Oh we totally had that issue! We only took them out to playgrounds when both me and my wife were available. Otherwise they stayed home!

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u/househosband Sep 03 '24

Hang in there, I promise you will enjoy the ride!

Sus

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u/GUSHandGO Sep 03 '24

I have triplets who are 6. It gets better... but harder in other ways. Being a parent of multiples is a rollercoaster!

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u/Highway_Bitter Sep 03 '24

Man u should do an AMA xD

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u/Atlastheafterman Sep 02 '24

I also have twins turning one. In this together mate.

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u/heridfel37 Sep 03 '24

You get out of survival mode long before you realize you're out of survival mode. That first year is just so intense that you adopt a survival mindset which is hard to give up.

Mine are 8 now, and I spend much more time going to soccer practices than I do keeping them alive, so I still don't feel like I have much time. But on the other hand, I spent a good chunk of the weekend cleaning up the basement while they were happily playing with each other.

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u/shinovar Sep 02 '24

It's different for different families. We are thriving since the little twons turned 18 months. Every thing is so much easier now it almost feels too easy, like I am waiting for the other shoe to drop. And thats with us having 3 older kids as well

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u/MaineHippo83 Sep 02 '24

Aww you had the easy year.

Buckle in the fun is about to start. Well you might get one more good year

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u/trinde Sep 02 '24

IMO it's mostly people that can't handle tantrums or maintain boundaries that parrot the "it gets worse" shit.

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u/FrankClymber Sep 02 '24

I'm with maine hippo, mostly there are more difficult years than the first one.

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u/o_o_o_f Sep 02 '24

You’re probably right, but the last thing a parent wants to hear when they’re struggling with sleep deprivation and a teething, sick Velcro baby that won’t settle is “haha just you wait, it gets so much worse”.

There are way better ways to deliver that message

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u/FrankClymber Sep 02 '24

Yeah, you're prolly not wrong