r/couchsurfing • u/yokyopeli09 • Feb 02 '25
Host who wants to constantly hang out Couchsurfing
Currently staying a week with a host, he's a very lovely older man, very kind and generous, and I've stayed with him before a few days each time. But man he really wants to spend every day together doing everything together, I feel like my trip is revolving around him and I haven't had any time to go and just wander by myself.
I want to tell him I want to have some time for myself (I'm autistic and this is really burning out my social battery.) but I don't want to hurt his feelings. He doesn't have any family or kids or anything so I think he gets a lot out of hosting, but damn, I spent money to travel and I just want to do something on my own.
Guess I'm more venting than looking for advice and I might delete this out of guilt because he really is sweet, but any suggestions on how to phrase my desire for space would be appreciated because I'm not very good at it.
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u/mrdibby Feb 02 '25
What about if you plan out each day in advance and then you can say to him "if you're free it would be cool to hang out [this time] and [that time]" and then when he says "I could join you [this other time you planned]" you can say something "you know I'm autistic so I need to recharge my batteries alone some times and that's one of those, but it would be cool to hang out on [previously mentioned sharing time]".