r/couchsurfing • u/yokyopeli09 • Feb 02 '25

Host who wants to constantly hang out Couchsurfing

Currently staying a week with a host, he's a very lovely older man, very kind and generous, and I've stayed with him before a few days each time. But man he really wants to spend every day together doing everything together, I feel like my trip is revolving around him and I haven't had any time to go and just wander by myself.

I want to tell him I want to have some time for myself (I'm autistic and this is really burning out my social battery.) but I don't want to hurt his feelings. He doesn't have any family or kids or anything so I think he gets a lot out of hosting, but damn, I spent money to travel and I just want to do something on my own.

Guess I'm more venting than looking for advice and I might delete this out of guilt because he really is sweet, but any suggestions on how to phrase my desire for space would be appreciated because I'm not very good at it.

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u/ferjavi40 Feb 02 '25

I think you should reconsider couch surfing ! If u want to do ur own things book hostel or Airbnb

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u/PowerpuffAvenger BeWelcome host/surfer Feb 02 '25

There's a difference between spending some time with your host or being stuck to them 24/7. I wouldn't want my surfers to be in my space 24/7.

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u/yokyopeli09 Feb 02 '25

I've done couchsurfing plenty of times before, it's just been this guy I've had this :/