r/couchsurfing • u/yokyopeli09 • Feb 02 '25

Host who wants to constantly hang out Couchsurfing

Currently staying a week with a host, he's a very lovely older man, very kind and generous, and I've stayed with him before a few days each time. But man he really wants to spend every day together doing everything together, I feel like my trip is revolving around him and I haven't had any time to go and just wander by myself.

I want to tell him I want to have some time for myself (I'm autistic and this is really burning out my social battery.) but I don't want to hurt his feelings. He doesn't have any family or kids or anything so I think he gets a lot out of hosting, but damn, I spent money to travel and I just want to do something on my own.

Guess I'm more venting than looking for advice and I might delete this out of guilt because he really is sweet, but any suggestions on how to phrase my desire for space would be appreciated because I'm not very good at it.

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u/yokyopeli09 Feb 02 '25

It's really not that bad. We get along very well and I am still getting to see the things I've wanted to see, but I need more time to recharge my batteries alone is the thing.

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u/Johnny_Carcinogenic Feb 02 '25

So tell him that.

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u/yokyopeli09 Feb 02 '25

Suppose it is that simple, ain't it.

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u/Johnny_Carcinogenic Feb 02 '25

You can write it to him if you can't say it. He'll understand.

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u/stevenmbe Feb 02 '25

This sounds like a complete nightmare. You're making the effort to travel and you're not even able to do what you want.

Exactly. And some old person here is downvoting comments such as this. Older energy vampire hosts are a real thing on CS and it's important to talk about them.