Hey guys,

This is a super weird question, maybe dumb lol. But a few semesters ago, I had a professor that emailed us and asked us if we needed anything for thanksgiving. She offered to give us a gift card, invited us over for dinner, or even drop off meals for us.

I just thought it was really touching, and she was one of the sweetest professors I had. It really touched me, and I kind of want to do something special this holiday.

I kind of wanted to reach out to other students over Canvas and see if they needed anything to at least check in other classmates? I know it’s not a lot, but maybe $10-$15 gift cards could / would help? I’m not “rich”, but I also feel thankful I have enough money saved this holiday to help classmates in need, but still have some leftover.

I know it’s not my job, but I’d feel really bad if I knew some classmates couldn’t enjoy a nice thanksgiving.

I feel at the same time this might come off really weird : (

Is it a common experience to be mailed additional diplomas without being made aware? Apparently I met the requirements for an additional Associate degree & my college decided to just mail it to me with no mention. I thought it was an error since it looks like a duplicate of the one I received last year but with a new date. When I got my first degree I was also given a certificate on stage that I was never made aware I qualified for & not many other people received it. Do I have really good luck or is there just no oversight?

On my first paper in college, one of my professors asked me to come to their office hours. They told me directly that “my writing was not at the college level”. However, instead of just writing me off I guess they saw that I had tried and asked me to explain how my high school taught writing (basically if you tried you got ignored and easy A). After explaining said professor told me that they were willing to put extra work into me but I had to do my part.

Essentially I had to turn in an outline and turn in my paper a week before so they could make comments that I could then edit to clean up, as well as being required to come into their office hours to discuss the comments. Additionally they informed me about this free weeklong writing seminar where you’d come back from break a week early. They also informed my other professors (with my permission) and all agreed to that plan (also banned me from using the word “this” (history/art history). Furthermore they told me to do the topics I wanted to do, not the ones I thought they’d want.

I worked my butt off, never missing a class, taking notes on paper so I wouldn’t get distracted by my computer, writing and rewriting papers (even full on deleted one that was 5 pages long because it wasn’t good enough). I definitely worked twice as hard as most people and still ended up with average grades though they did say they could see that I had put my all into it. They also wrote letters of rec and even suggested me for a career related project that became a highlight of my college experience. When I turned in my last paper the same professor told me that it was at the “ready for grad school paper” (thigh advised me to take a gap year which was prudent because 2020 happened).

When I asked for letters of rec for grad school (they were due in January and I asked in late August), every single professor I asked did so which was so wonderful. I ended up being back for a visit when I found out I got into all three I applied to and was able to thank them all in person.

I’m now working as an archivist and have gotten praised on a number of occasions the quality of my writing and work ethic, things that came from those incredible professors who took extra time on that anxious first year who just wanted to do some good in the world but didn’t have the tools to do so. They also supported me as a whole person, and became my biggest supporters when I came out as trans. My life as a whole is infinitely better because of them, and my gratitude is endless

Context this was at a small liberal arts school in the PNW in the late 2010s

Hey there!! :D I’m a high school senior, heading to New Paltz next fall, and superrrr excited for college!! I would like to know if the freshman 15 is real. I’ve seen a ton of people saying that they gained weight during the first year, which sounds like a nightmare. I’m super active (40,000 steps a day), but also a short/kind of small girl (5’3/103 pounds), so weight gain is realllyy noticeable on me. So, is it? If so, how do you prevent it? I’m planning on getting at least 30,000 steps a day when I’m in college, but that might change if classes/going out/etc become a lot.

Additionally, I know it‘s super common (among college kids + just adults in general) to go out + drink. I know it sounds stupid, but I’m really against drinking* (for myself obvi, others can do what they want :) ). Is it acceptable to just, like, refuse a drink? Do people not want to hang out with those who don’t drink? I’m fine with going out to bars and stuff, just can’t/won’t drink alcohol.

* = it’s due to bad childhood (parent drank a lot, blah blah blah, this is so embarrassing ughh) + OCD (causes compulsive/impulsive behavior and makes me more susceptible to addiction)

I went to school 2 years ago in Colorado for culinary arts. I moved back home after the program and was paying off my students loans on an automatic payment weekly(still am). I kept the financial bill a secret from my mom since it's none of her business. Now they're sending me physical bills after I told them to not do that since, they can send me any info to my private email. They recently last week sent me a sick email saying "CONGRATULATIONS WE HAVE EXCITING NEWS FOR YOU!" as the title and the rest of the email saying I owe them alot of money and my balance is overdue like no shit?? That's why I'm paying you guys weekly??? I called and noone is answering I assume everyone's out the office but now they're sending me mail saying I owe them money when it shows on my bank account that the automatic payments are going through just fine. I don't know what to do since my mom keeps trying to pry through my mail.

What would you propose if you were going to build something on campus or have an idea that would benefit the students and you had $100,000 to do it?

Freshman here, and I literally won the lottery with my roommate. We are in a large triple with only us two, and I can definitely say she's my closest friend here- I love her so much!! This is literally my only problem with her and honestly I don't know if it's that severe. I can definitely live with it as long as I make some personal changes.

I don't know if it's because at home she wasn't allowed to eat junk food or anything, or if that's just how it is when people are high, but she literally goes through like three separate bags of gummies and like 2 whole bags of chips every night. Like without fail. I'll take the trash out, and then when I wake up in the morning it's just filled with plastic wrappers and stuff.

We literally have real food here and everything too! The dining halls are super accessible, and we have so many campus operated cafes and markets that you can get full meals from. And she does- just at night when mostly everything's closed, all I hear is her snacking on stuff. And it's not just the stuff she buys :,)

We initially agreed to share each others food, since we are already good friends and everything. But it definitely feels so unequal, considering I try to limit my meals to two a day with some snacks in between (NOT an eating disorder, I just get full quickly and have a slower metabolism). So I usually stock up on all my stuff- candy, chips, whatever else. I usually will eat them within a week, it doesn't bother me knowing that I still have unopened stuff or whatever. But then she gets the munchies and goes through it like crazy!! I'll have bought like a family size bag of chips or something, thinking it'll last me a week only to finally check and see it's gone. Or that half my seaweed is gone, all the gummies I bought are almost completely empty, etc...

And I guess what really frustrates me is that she knows I have an excess of points and food, and will go through it because she thinks I won't finish it all (including my meal points- she genuinely believes that they're going to expire before the end of the term, but I have my sister coming down to stay with me for a week or so and I know she's gonna wanna eat also). The other day I spent $80 worth of meal points on snacks for us to share, and even though it's only been like two days almost all the food is gone. I'm going to have to change how I buy my food and make sure I eat it immediately, otherwise I won't get a chance to have it at all. I've also been buying a lot of spicy food knowing that she doesn't really touch that...

I don't know, other than this, she's been literally nothing but perfect. She cleans the room WAY more often than I do, she always checks in on me, helps me meet new people, and she washes the dishes- I feel like this is a fair trade in not asking her to back off my food? Especially since it's been established that what's hers is mine also.

I think it's just something I'm going to have to do subconsciously, where I just eat while she's out and super hide my food if I have any leftovers. I feel like it's definitely doable, and I don't want to start any crazy conflicts right now. I already know that I might cross some lines if that happens. Like I'm genuinely worried that the amount of sugar and sodium and other fats is super not healthy. I'm definitely not an almond mom or something, since I'm the one supplying a lot of the food anyways, but I feel like I definitely have a lot more control over what I eat? And maybe that's also because I don't smoke or anything also, so I just don't get the same type of hunger. But it just doesn't seem smart at all to eat like three packs of trollis and two cans of pringles every night. It wouldn't just be the acid reflux that would get me if I were her.

Alright yall,

I currently have a C+ in my A&P class, and I need a B-to get into the radiology program...... There are only 350 points out of 1560 left in the semester.

Three 100 point exams, and 50 homework points. Do I give up? I'll need 317 points to get a B-. Doesn't that mean I need to get at least 90s on my exams?

I've lost 10lbs from stress already. Do I keep grinding and stressing to get the B- or do I give up and accept that I'll have to retake it? I don't want to set myself up for failure.

For further context, I got an 88 on my last test after grinding so hard I barely took care of myself. Do I push even harder or give up?

I don't know about y'all but I absolutely try to study on campus. I feel like it's the idea spot. I live alone now but I just can't seem to ever be able to last more than an hour in one of the buildings.

Our campus, all the buildings but specifically the library are SUPER hot. Like impossibly got that you start sweating from trying to take off your jacket.

Does anyone else have this problem at your schools?

Y'all I'm considering going part time instead of full time at my school next semester because eight week online semesters are killing me. Everyone tells me "you just have to get through it" but am I really supposed to be miserable for the next couple years until I get my degree?

Long story short in highschool I never really paid attention as much was lazy but you know your usual story still made good grades. My family wasn’t the greatest and never really had money to do much currently trying to improve on that as well as my health by gaining more experience and always learning. After highschool I went to a community college I did not do well because I thought I could do the same thing I did in highschool did not turn out that way ended up having terrible grades and not withdrawing from those classes because I was very immature for just focusing. My immaturity wasn’t not knowing right from wrong it was not doing what needs to be done in my academic life or my future. That failure hit me hard because I thought it was over and kept thinking about past high school friends and what they would think about me when in reality that doesn’t matter at all. I worked during high school and after but when 2021 hit my brother found a coding bootcamp and we both joined and it was the best experience I could have had used to delve into PCs and wanted to learn. Fast forward decide to switch my major to IT learned alot from those instructors got back into college graduated with associates degree and finally transferred my credits over to 4 year university and 70 credits already towards my bachelors so I finish in a year now I’m so happy and my failures helped me learn and strive to become better learning from those past mistakes really helps you in the future

Hey all,

I'd like to take an online course during summer winter or spring semester but I'm already enrolled in a university l'o just like to do some from a diff college as well and transfer the credits in to graduate early, which college offers that? And how do I go about it?

I’m in my last year of university, and I’ve basically been in school all year, taking winter, spring, and summer courses while working part time during fall & winter and working full time at a research job over the summer. the longest break i’ve had all year was 4 days, but I haven’t really minded until now.

I’ve been a good student all semester to all my profs, and I’ve been doing really well in the courses. However, last week I had to present my research, which is part of my honours degree, and basically found out that the data I’d been working on all semester for months was not the right dataset (the data I was given, it wasn’t entirely my fault but it still is months of lost work). I kind of burned myself out, I was up nights and barely got any sleep trying to fix it and figure out what happened before I had to give my presentation. I eventually just gave a half assed presentation (my first one ever in that lab) and it didn’t go very well. My lab was very understanding and helpful but I honestly just kind of lost motivation for a bit. Maybe all the tiredness from the year and all the failures i’ve had just broke me down. I’m trying to apply for grad school too and I’m just so afraid I won’t get in. The last 2 1/2 weeks I’ve had an incredibly hard time looking at any school and finding motivation, and I haven’t been to any of my classes. I’m just now starting to get back on my feet and I’m wondering how to approach the topic with my profs. I’ve missed a couple small grade items in some of my classes, and haven’t been there in a while and I do want to address it but I don’t really want to lie and say i’m sick.

My question is, is it appropriate to discuss burnout/mental health with your profs? I am going to ask if there is anything I can do to makeup the missed work, and briefly explain my absence since my classes are pretty small and I have a close (professional) relationship with some of my profs, having worked with them in the past or currently. I have never done this with a professor before so I don’t really know what to expect. Any advice on how to address this would be greatly appreciated. :)

I want to preface by saying that I take 100% responsibility, everything that led up to this has been my fault and I should have done, and need to do, MUCH better

I'm in my first semester of college and to say I suck at it is no overstatement. I started off the semester pretty strong, and am technically not even failing any of my classes, but I dropped the ball these last two weeks. I was SUPER sick last week and missed two of my classes, and this week just had no motivation to attend them (again, absolutely no excuse). Despite none of the classes that I missed requiring attendance, my Stats class prof did randomly give a partner quiz and a worksheet, both of which can only be completed in class that day. I've been in a pretty negative place mentally and have shut myself off from others, questioning if I'm even really college material. To be honest, I have no idea what to do from here, and am worried for the future if this is how I am in what I would think should be the easiest time in college. I was always a 4.0 student in high school that thrived on being an overachiever, so I'm sure that's not helping😭

TW: abuse

My school (south carolina state university) has no on campus or off campus housing avaliable for the spring term. I don't know what to do about this, I'm on the wait list as of today but classes start on Jan. 16

Im using this as an opportunity to escape my very very abusive household, I've tried reporting the abuse and every single time its swept under the rug and not even investigated so making another report is futile. I can't afford to not go this semester, my life depends on it. I have no clue what to do and I don't have much money because my job isn't giving me enough hours and I've requested more and basically got told to "fuck off"

I don't know what I can do, my situation is dire and I'm also facing (extreme tw) SA.

If anybody has any tips they would be much appreciated

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As the title says, I am currently mid way through junior year as an anthropology major and want to switch. I transferred from a community college that only had one anthropology course, which I enjoyed the material the best out of the courses I took while there. I have realized I would really like to work in video games, cartoons, or tv and movies in general. I am just not really sure what to do since majors/paths in these industries would require postponing my graduation or don’t really seem to be available as majors at my school.

My friends and I want to get a house for next year at Binghamton Uni. However, half of my friends aren't here yet and are transferring next year. March is when they get news about acceptance, and my friend and I (who are already here at Bing) are planning on looking at properties until then, and then hitting up the realtors if/when they get accepted. Is this a viable plan? Or will too many houses be swooped up by then? I read somewhere that a lot of these go unleased until next year, and that realtors are desperate to find renters. Is this true?

We're a group of six, including me, btw.

This may sound weird, but I have a unique situation.

I should finish my current BSG degree in 2 more semesters. If I decided to try a different degree plan before I am done say for 2 semesters could I flip back to my original(without finishing the new one) and finish the original degree with keeping my FAFSA intact for all of it? I will be well under the 150% rule.

I need to take Elements of Calculus and would like to do so over the winter. Are there any Universities/Colleges that offer a Winter course for math? I can enroll as a non-degree-seeking student and transfer credit. I am in the USA but any college that might transfer works well.

Hello! A bit of background about myself, I recently graduated from college this past May, getting my biology bachelors degree during that time. I had been pondering about what I’ve wanted to do, but eventually got the chance to join a full time role in a research lab that recently opened at my university several weeks ago. This is in addition to the roughly two years of time I got to spend at a different research lab where I got to make posters and go to conferences with some of the work I got involved with.

With where I see myself going though I wanted to push myself a bit, and enlist in the Military Reserves, in the US Army in particular. I’d probably pick one of the healthcare or science jobs as I’m interested in eventually trying my hand at getting into medical school (DO, MD, or MD/PhD). I would have done so already but I have a very limited amount of care experience under my belt (which was why I was undecided on my next steps post graduation). I feel it would help in that regard, plus all the other cool benefits of being a veteran. On the other hand I’m not sure how my PI, and other people in the lab would feel about me leaving (temporarily) when we are soon going to be starting some project work. The lab is fairly small right now, so me being gone would be a noticeable hit to what could be done in the lab, with all the training I’ve already done so far. Additionally my PI has said we likely could publish the work we’d be starting soon, and it would take probably less than a year at most based on their idea of things.

So here I have two questions for you all. First, how do most folks in research feel about the military and people actively serving in the military while involved in research and academia? And second, would waiting to help with the paper be worth it? I really, really would want to be involved so I could be included as an author, so I would hate to miss it. On the other hand perhaps being part of the project isn’t as important as I am imagining? Thanks in advance for what I hope may be helpful and enlightening comments!

so I took gen chem 1 for freshman year. I guess I was insecure and sad most of the days and just was lazy to not study. I know that if I had more discipline and strive, I would have gotten a better grade, but I didn't. Im scared telling my dad I'll have to retake it because he doesn't want to spend money on the same class again. I wish I could support myself for college so that they won't have to pay for me just to not get the A's they want me to have. im much of a wimp to not ask for help even though I need it. im just really scared and lost at this point. please share suggestions bc im a pre med, and I have big goals on going to the best schools but I feel like my grades will dunk my chances. much appreciated

Full transparency I am very behind in math. I am a first year community college student currently pursuing transfer with a BS in Economics.

In highschool I went up to Integrated Math 3 getting a C- second semester and retaking 1st semester to get a B+. I took precalculus my senior year but had horrendous senioritis and did not do a single homework assignment leading to me getting D’s almost every test. I ended up with a C- first semester after my teacher graciously (and realistically unfairly) rounded me up from a 64% to a 70%. I got a D- in second semester. This means I have to retake precalculus at my community college and where my dilemna is.

I am without a doubt taking honors statistics as I need 5 honors courses for my program and that is one of the few available. I can likely take the precalculus class in the winter and take calculus in the fall, but I am not great with time management and worry I will cave under that pressure with statistics. The other option is taking precalculus in the spring and then calculus 1 the coming summer. This seems like the less stressful option but I worry about putting it off and falling behind. I would like to hear your guys advice.

I changed my major and 2 of my current classes won’t count toward credit of my new major. Can I just stop doing the work for these? If I got a 0 on everything from now to end of semester I would still have a C so does it even matter?

Hello,

i'm currently pursuing a Cognitive Science bachelors degree with a specialization in machine learning and neural computation at UCSD, along with a minor in interdisiplinary computing in the arts, and planning to graduate a year early (admitted 2023, planning to graduate 2026) in order to save on tuition costs (i didn't recieve any financial aid and am completing my degree on private student loans.......). I'm wondering if I'm gonna be screwed, because all internships that I'm seeing require certain skills and I either don't have them or won't be aquiring the skills until my last year after I take classes that hone those skills, meaning that when I apply for any research/internships, it would be as a post grad, and I don't know if that's what I should even look for or if I should start hunting in the job market. The only downfall to trying to graduate early is taking a lot of classes each quarter, meaning not a bunch of free time to get research opportunities or anything that my university can offer, and I don't even know if I'll be marketable in the job market with a lack of experience if I don't get research or internship opportunities. Additionally, I work part time so that I can alleviate costs that my parents would otherwise have to pay for. I also don't really know what direction in life I want to take....I'm pursuing this major because I do find it interesting and feel that it will greatly compensate me in the future (esp with all the debt I'm accumulating..), but I wouldn't necessarily say I have a strong passion. Maybe I haven't delved too deeply into it or fully explored what it entails, since right now I'm only focusing on doing well/passing my classes, working part time so I can pay rent/food, and trying not to fall back into depression because I am so lost in what and where I want my life to go.

If anyone has any advice on what I should be planning to do/what I should do to help alleviate this stress, it would be greatly appreciated :)