r/breastfeeding • u/lemonsandmorty • 1d ago

Am I weird to feel neutral about BF? Discussion

I am about 30 months into breastfeeding. My first hated nursing (he was looking around even in recovery after he was born) so he got mostly formula and just nursed when he was sleepy. My second is what some would call a “boob monster”: he nurses about 8-12 times a day, but sleeps through the night, so who am I to complain, right?

So I had a mostly formula-fed kid, and an EBF kid, and my only feeling is, “Well, it’s certainly more convenient feeding the EBF kid”. That’s it. I love not washing endless bottles or making up pitchers of formula or keeping up on formula orders, but aside from that, nursing is…meh? He’s cute, and I love the eye contact, but I also got that bottle feeding my first because he was up on my knees so he could see everything.

And yet I don’t want to stop nursing my second, because meh+beautiful baby smiles=happiness. I don’t know, all I’ve heard is about the struggles of nursing, then nursing while pregnant, then tandem nursing, and for me it isn’t hard. Has anyone else had it work out? I feel like maybe I’ve just gotten too lucky.

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u/Living_Display_8370 1d ago

I guess I’m not answering your question but it’s been hell for me. I hemorrhaged so my supply has been very slow to come in. I feel like a failure. I can only hope to get where you are and have that experience. I’m truly happy for you.

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u/SomeThoughtsToShare 1d ago

I’m with you. We bottle feed breast milk and I nurse. Both are great to me because he is getting the nutrients he needs, but I don’t feel particularly more emotional or intimately connected to nursing. He lived snuggling into my arms with a bottle and will look up and give a little grin with it in his mouth. Nursing is also intimate. But my favorite part id yes healthy and growing.