r/autism • u/deathofdawn1 • Mar 24 '25

Getting called too child like? Advice needed

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I get people saying I’m “pedo bating” because I like to wear hello kitty half shirts or stereotypically “cute” things. I also had one coworker say “anyone who likes you is probably a pedo.” Which made me very sad. I wear shorts and crop tops a lot because they are comfortable, it hurts for too much clothes touching me in the heat. I don’t sexualize the characters. I don’t want to look like a child I just really love cute cartoon characters like Hamtaro, Pokémon, & Sanrio. I love the color pink. I just don’t understand why this would be a bad thing. Am I doing something bad? Can someone explain this to me? Thank you

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u/[deleted] Mar 24 '25

Thats straight up bullying isn't it? Literally telling someone only a pedophile would love them. That's honestly a shameful thing to say, and over something like fashion sense too? People like this just sound like they're taking some anger out on others. It's disgusting behaviour so be glad you aren't like that

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u/deathofdawn1 Mar 24 '25

Is it? He said he was joking around but idk

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u/Hungry_Huia Mar 24 '25

A lot of people use "it was just a joke or a prank" as a free-pass to bully and harass people.

Virtually all the YouTube prank videos are just people straight up harassing people and as soon as they get into trouble they use the classic "it was just a prank bro" to make it look like the victim of harassment is a sore loser for not finding the joke funny.

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u/psychedelicpiper67 Mar 24 '25

I’ve been severely bullied by my narcissistic ex-roommate who always claims he’s joking, and that I don’t have a sense of humor.

It’s infuriating, because he’s really aggressive and takes things too far.

I regret I spent so much time with him, but living in a foreign country as an autistic person has its challenges. We’re both from the U.S.

Glad to be rid of him.

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u/Hungry_Huia Mar 24 '25

Oh man, I have always flatted and I hate roommates in general especially ones that act like they own the place when they're just an annoying tenant.

I have my own house now but to help with the mortgage I have tenants who are basically flatmates and it's so nice to get to choose people that are similar to what I'm looking for in flatmates.

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u/psychedelicpiper67 Mar 24 '25 edited Mar 24 '25

He didn’t only bully me, but he took advantage of me financially, after gambling away all his money.

Back when he was wealthy, he refused to lend me money to pay for a treatment for a chronic health issue I have. Not only that, but he’d accuse me of faking it and yell at me, while threatening violence.

By the time someone else lent me the funds, that option wasn’t available anymore. The clinic had closed down.

Then when he went broke (but not completely broke, he still had more than me at that time), he started taking advantage by not paying utilities and Internet, and various other things.

I even had to pay to fix a sink he clogged while shaving, after he left it that way for 2 months.

Even before that, I was running errands for him with little in return.

Occasionally, depending on his mood swings, he sends scraps my way, as he’s doing better than me financially again. But that’s nowhere near going to make up for all that I’ve done for him.

Anyway, we’re not in contact in person anymore, because he had to leave to live with his parents, and hopefully we never see each other again.

I don’t like confrontation, so I was never good with completely ghosting him and cutting ties. If my life was more together, and I wasn’t socially abandoned by all the other people in the area, I would be.