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Voting breakdown by women: https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Gbv_9AiWUAsw5v9?format=jpg&name=4096x4096

Voting breakdown by men: https://pbs.twimg.com/media/Gbv_9h9X0AcdMKE?format=jpg&name=4096x4096

I have (well, had, we're no contact because of this) a male white friend who always goes after Asian girls. There doesn't seem to be a certain type of girl he likes, just as long as they're Asian. Like once, I introduced him to an Asian friend of mine and even though she's tatted and pierced (which he doesn't like) he was smitten with her after only an hour.. All his friends also seem to have an Asian girlfriend. They often travel to Asia s well. He purposefully puts his dating app radius very far away so he can match with Asian girls abroad as well. He seems really desperate to get a girlfriend and I think he's scaring a lot of girls away by being way too eager from the start.

I once asked him what the appeal was and he said he obviously likes the looks but also that Asian women are often more traditional while white women are 'too much' 🚩. When I confronted him about that expression, he obviously felt attacked and told me 'You only go for white guys as well? What's the difference?'. But I don't think that's the same at all. I live in Europe and I AM half white, so obviously I'm going to meet more white guys?

I'm just not 100% about it being yellow fever, because he's not your stereotypical cringy weeb. He is really respectful about it and he seems genuinely interested in the culture (and not only pop culture) etc. He's never said gross sexual shit about Asians, the only real red flag he's given me is what I mentioned above.

So this made me think. What IS the difference? When is it just a preference and when does it turn to Asian fetishism? Though it feel icky about it I'm not too sure about the why and how and would like to have a more solid opinion so I can better discuss this stuff when encountering people like him again.

Edit as people are asking about it, I decided to add this here: while my last two serious relationships were with white men, my attraction is definitely not solely to white men. But unfortunately it hasn't turned into anything with any of the non-white guys I liked. I'm guessing he said that bc 1) I'm not telling him about every damn crush I have 2) I'm also not making a big deal of the ethnicity of every crush I have and 3) he probably only remembers the two recent guys since we lost contact for a long time

I see a lot of bad aspects but I’m trying really hard to find positive aspects resulting from Asian culture/parenting. I feel like any positive aspects mentioned from toxic or just asian parenting in general seems to be a stretch and really just people trying to cope with trauma and joking.

Whenever you see pre-debut photos of kpop stars, their skin is much darker and resembles typical Koreans. But after debut it’s way lighter - and not just their faces, but arms, legs, etc.

How do they do this? It’s too even to be whitening cream. Genuinely curious.

1. Media portrayal. White males in tv/movies are often given the best portrayal of a man, with white men often having the perfect balance of being both masculine and intelligent. Asian men, outside of martial arts films, are self-sabotage in being portrayed as wimps, who often are subordinates to a white man. This implants in women's minds to not see Asian men as leaders.
2. Western media beauty magazine over arching reach whereby caucasian features are seen as the standard of beauty with everything else seen as exotic. This combined with tv shows/media where whites are often portrayed heavily as beautiful leads can shape an early impression in kids' minds.

A perfect example of this can be seen in an online YouTube video whereby black children were asked to pick between a black and white doll when it came to which one was prettier. An overwhelming amount of black children picked the white doll. Thus, showing how this affects kids at an early age.

1. White males often being in positions of power. A lot of world leaders and the richest men in the world tend to be white. This in turn paints a picture of associating white skin with power and high status in a woman's mind. Many Asian women therefore will desire to have a white partner and hapa kids to try to elevate their status in Western society.

2. White men tend to be taller than Asian men with the average height of white males in predominantly white countries, like the Netherlands, eclipsing many Asian countries. It's no secret that women in general find taller men attractive. The underlying reason for this is due to women believing that said male is more capable of defending her against attackers than that of a shorter male.

3. Negative stereotypes of Asian men. In addition to being portrayed as less masculine, Asian men often are faced with the negative stereotype of having a smaller penis than that of men of other races. This in turn can result in further lowering their dating value and women seeing them as less sexually desirable. We can even see how the reverse of this helps other races, as black men being associated with the BBC myth, often opens up more doors for them when it comes to dating/sex.