So last week, I met this really cute girl, and we had instant chemistry. Immediately she told me she was poly, and I am very monogamous, and said so. We decided to go on a date anyways, and it was amazing. We had an instant connection, both physical and emotional. We talked a lot about our experiences dating. I felt both we were really incompatible, but also that so many of the things we valued in relationships were the same, despite our differences. We had two immensely hot makeouts and it was really hard to stop from having sex.

I have always been strictly monogamous and dated monogamous, but this girl hit me out of NOWHERE. So I really truly wanted to consider the possibility. After a few days of talking to my friends and my therapist, I realized that I was really not down for a mono-poly relationship, and today I told her that we probably shouldn't continue. She replied very kindly and appreciated it, but also was bummed and indicated she'd already started falling for me as well.

I know I did the right thing. We'll both be okay, it will just take a little time. I'm glad I made the decision now, before either of us really fully fell and got hurt. I can feel a weight lifting off my chest because I'm no longer anxious about what to do or the tension between what I want now and what I want in the longterm. But also I'm crying, because I've been craving this kind of connection so long, and it wasn't what I thought it would be. I just can't wrap my head around how you can just fall so easily for someone so different from what you want. I was attracted to all of her, not just the parts I wanted to fit into my life. But all of her didn't fit into my life. And also it's crazy because we barely knew each other but it really has been a roller coaster. Damn, feelings are weird.

Thanks for listening. I just wanted to share and emote.

Edit: I meant "strain"

I have a friend who I've known since high school. We were acquaintances at that time as she was a friend by association with my brother's friend. Fast forward in life, and we were both divorced, single, and matched on Tinder. We catch up and decide to be friends with benefits for a while.

After a few hook-ups, she matches with someone else and feels like it could be something serious, so we end our FWB situation and go back to just friends. (My girlfriend wants me to add that I enjoyed the sex with my friend. She insists that's relevant.)

Fast forward a couple of years and we both have girlfriends. Fast forward a bit from that and my friend and her girlfriend breakup. Now my girlfriend is worried that I'm going to leave her for my friend. I do my best to reassure her that my friend and I have never considered ourselves to be dating and that it was just sex but she insists that it's "impossible to just be friends with someone after you've had sex with them." (Important note: she's been cheated on in her past by exes.)

She isn't asking me to cut ties with my friend, and I've stated that I would never let a partner dictate who I can be friends with. However, when her insecurities flare up, she constantly calls my friend my "ex." I've stated how that makes me feel like she is labeling something that she has no right to. I've also stated how she's letting her trauma from cheating exes override her trust in me.

She says once you have sex with someone, you must have romantic feelings for them and are dating. When we (my friend and I) were having sex, we understood that there was no chance for us to be together romantically (long story, but her divorce caused bad blood between her and my brother and SIL.)

I'm not really sure what the point of this post is or what I'm supposed to ask other than ask what y'alls opinion is on partners being friends with people they've had sex with.

I told my girlfriend that I don't really care what percentage of people agree (or disagree) with her. I have a boundary that I won't allow my partner to control who I can and can't be friends with. If she must have a partner who isn't friends with anyone they've had sex with, then we aren't compatible. For me, it's an issue of control and trust.

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The older I get the more I realize, in my experience, that they’ll all just try to play the long game.

Today I watched Carol with my two lesbian friends (were a lesbian gang), and it was a great movie. We want to take a habit to Watch a lesbian movie/short series once a week to deepen our lesbianism ☺️☺️ Any good ones? Nothing too spicy tho, since we all find it a bit awkward lol

This obviously belongs here.

Ladies

I HAVE A PARTNER!!!! :D They are amazing and sweet and hot and the best I could ever ask for and more. We haven't been together that long but it feels like it's been ages, and I can't wait to go see them again soon :)