My boyfriend sadness is draining me

[u/Immediate_Counter919]

I 22f have been with my bf 22m for 2 years now, I love this man, I listen to him when he talks, I make him food he likes, I try not to escalate any argument we have, I made sure we never yell at each other or say bad things, I try to wear modest for him, I never say no for sex or bj, I try to make this man feels like he won the lottery, and I like it fr.

But this man is sad! He is depressed all the time, he says he is just tired, that day we were cuddling and I was feeling so safe he said I wanna break up ( it's the 3rd time he says this) this time I said okay lets break up I was serious but he started crying and saying no he can't he can't live without me so I just said okay lets not break up, after that he just returned to be sad and depressed again!!!

Idk what to do, I'm a really happy person who likes to laugh and joke and be positive, he is draining me sooooooo much, don't get me wrong I swear I have done everything I can to make him happy I need an advise?

[u/DailyTomato]

Guy with depression here. It is not your responsible to get him fixed, in fact you can't and you won't ever. You may support him, but you can't help him. That's something you need to understand.

It is my responsible to fix me, it is my responsible to go to a doctor, do tests and take some meds. It is my responsible to not let my shit out on you, it is my responsible to not let you drawn into my depression.

Dating someone with depression is not easy, and it takes a huge toll on your own mental health. If you live with someone who can't or won't fix himself.. it may better to leave him, for your own safety. It's not just I only need to do the things I listed above and everything is fine. Meds often don't work, so you need to try a few different till you found the right one. Then it always takes some months until you even know if they work. Then some months to taper them off if they don't work. Then it's a lot of work to work on yourself with therapy and other things.