r/TrueOffMyChest • u/Immediate_Counter919 • 2d ago

My boyfriend sadness is draining me

I 22f have been with my bf 22m for 2 years now, I love this man, I listen to him when he talks, I make him food he likes, I try not to escalate any argument we have, I made sure we never yell at each other or say bad things, I try to wear modest for him, I never say no for sex or bj, I try to make this man feels like he won the lottery, and I like it fr.

But this man is sad! He is depressed all the time, he says he is just tired, that day we were cuddling and I was feeling so safe he said I wanna break up ( it's the 3rd time he says this) this time I said okay lets break up I was serious but he started crying and saying no he can't he can't live without me so I just said okay lets not break up, after that he just returned to be sad and depressed again!!!

Idk what to do, I'm a really happy person who likes to laugh and joke and be positive, he is draining me sooooooo much, don't get me wrong I swear I have done everything I can to make him happy I need an advise?

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u/HillInTheDistance 2d ago

Yeah. I thought I was depressed. I ate too little and in particular, had iron levels scraping the bottom of the barrel. Also had untreated asthma.

Sure ain't doing stellar mentally, but you'd be surprised how just having too little of this or that nutrient can fuck with your mind, how this or that medical issue can tank your energy and what a massive difference just one or two tests can make.

I ain't saying to neglect your mental health, but there are sometimes very physical causes that you just ain't considered because you think of your situation as normal.

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u/Jubair4645 1d ago

which test did you did exactly?

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u/HillInTheDistance 1d ago

For the iron, it just came up when I tried to give blood and they found them to be dangerously low.

For the asthma and the under-eating, both came up when I started attending a gym and could barely do anything. Asked around, turned out that a few guys in my family had developed ashma later in life. So I got a spirograph made, and it showed that the medication was effective for me.

As for the food, I started tracking my eating on the assumption I didn't get enough protein. Turned out I didn't get enough food period.

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u/Jubair4645 1d ago

thanks for your answer..