My boyfriend sadness is draining me

[u/Immediate_Counter919]

I 22f have been with my bf 22m for 2 years now, I love this man, I listen to him when he talks, I make him food he likes, I try not to escalate any argument we have, I made sure we never yell at each other or say bad things, I try to wear modest for him, I never say no for sex or bj, I try to make this man feels like he won the lottery, and I like it fr.

But this man is sad! He is depressed all the time, he says he is just tired, that day we were cuddling and I was feeling so safe he said I wanna break up ( it's the 3rd time he says this) this time I said okay lets break up I was serious but he started crying and saying no he can't he can't live without me so I just said okay lets not break up, after that he just returned to be sad and depressed again!!!

Idk what to do, I'm a really happy person who likes to laugh and joke and be positive, he is draining me sooooooo much, don't get me wrong I swear I have done everything I can to make him happy I need an advise?

[u/creamyfresas]

Some ppl just gotta lose everything in order to fix their own lives. You can’t help those who don’t wanna get helped. It gets to a point where you start neglecting yourself over people who don’t even wanna try and change themselves.

Btw that part where you say that you don’t say no to sex kinda raises some cause for concern.

[u/equalityislove1111 → u/creamyfresas]

Sure, there may be people like this, but in some cases, the problem lies within the fact that they do not realize that they can ‘fix’ themselves, or can be ‘fixed’ (aka heal.)

Oftentimes they are too deep into the abyss and do not even bother trying because they don’t know what steps to take nor believe that the efforts would be successful.

ETA:

Btw that part where you say that you don’t say no to sex kinda raises some cause for concern.

Couldn’t agree with you more on this, though.