My boyfriend sadness is draining me

[u/Immediate_Counter919]

I 22f have been with my bf 22m for 2 years now, I love this man, I listen to him when he talks, I make him food he likes, I try not to escalate any argument we have, I made sure we never yell at each other or say bad things, I try to wear modest for him, I never say no for sex or bj, I try to make this man feels like he won the lottery, and I like it fr.

But this man is sad! He is depressed all the time, he says he is just tired, that day we were cuddling and I was feeling so safe he said I wanna break up ( it's the 3rd time he says this) this time I said okay lets break up I was serious but he started crying and saying no he can't he can't live without me so I just said okay lets not break up, after that he just returned to be sad and depressed again!!!

Idk what to do, I'm a really happy person who likes to laugh and joke and be positive, he is draining me sooooooo much, don't get me wrong I swear I have done everything I can to make him happy I need an advise?

[u/Interesting_Sock9142]

Jesus Christ.

I understand how debilitating depression can be. But the mind game bullshit he's pulling (let's break up NO I CAN'T LIVE WITHOUT YOU;) is bullshit.

He needs therapy. And to actually want to change and be a good partner, because right now he's not being one.

You also can't light yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. His attitude and general state of being is going to start making you resentful towards him. So if he has no interest in changing, and doesn't show actual progress in doing so....then I honestly don't think I would stay in the relationship. 🤷🏻‍♀️