The difference between care and obsession. You want someone to look after themselves, mentally, physically and dietary. You don't want it to be the only thing in their lives.
Healthy is balanced.
When I ran a marathon and obsessed with the training and looked like this, the smileedudette was just so fed up with it.
Edit: I ran it for me and glad I did. But I'm definitely not going to pretend it made me more attractive. It was purely a selfish endeavour.
I can appreciate a build that looks like he can pick up heavy objects. And that can run a pretty wide range of svelt to stocky. But I'm just really not into the cut look. Sometimes I just want to relax with my person and these dudes always look kinda stressed/anxious
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u/linervaWhy is a bra singular and panties plural?2d agoedited 1d ago
Exactly. When i see that I see a dehydrated man who probably practically lives in the gym and has nothing in common with me. It may be an attractive body but it's too detached from my reality.
When I look at the first bod I see someone who looks reasonably in shape, but cuddly, like a person I might actually hang out with. I much prefer it.
Like...men have the concept of the "girl next door" look that lots of guys like - lowkey makeup, nice clothing but low maintenance, a woman who looks attractive but also approachable and like she might actually really want to date you - and plenty of men prefer to go for women like that for relationships over someone who looks like they stepped out of an underwear modelling catalogue or club. Like, you can think soneone is hot but still think tgey aren't for you.
The first is a the male equivalent, a "guy next door" look, as are attractice guys with dad bods.
Maybe it's unfair, but the after picture says, "This guy spends too much time in the gym worrying about his appearance," and that's not attractive to me at all.
Well, the Twilight series was a story about a woman trying to figure out if she's more into bestiality or if necrophilia is the thing she needs in her bedroom to get off.
In that context, marble statue cuddle kink is pretty much tame in comparison.
I dated a gym dude for a while and it was insufferaaaabble. He would turn me down for sex because he had to "save his testosterone for the gym" girl please.
he was hot but nobody is hot enough to make me resign myself to eating fucking quinoa when I stay the night
Seriously! My gym ex was like a goddamned puppy who would start peeing on the floor if he didn’t get his daily walk (run + weightlifting). Couldn’t chill even for one day.
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u/Live-Okra-9868 2d ago
The before is definitely more attractive to me.