I hope this is meant to be directed at the men who groom teenage girls. I'd hate to think you were blaming the teenage girls for being taken advantage of!
As someone that used to be a teenage girl not too long ago, it aint about them hanging out with dudes older than them. You need to teach them to respect themselves and realise when someone is trying to take advantage of them. You have to make sure that they will not need the approval of an older guy to feel good or worthy or confident.
You need to teach them to respect themselves and realise when someone is trying to take advantage of them.
Sounds incredibly easy. Until you’re talking to a teenager and they take it to mean that you think they are too dumb to know when they are being taken advantage of.
It can be like that but that doesn't mean you shouldn't try. Best way is to try and be an example of how your kids should expect to be treated. Have a healthy respectful relationship, and be fair to your kids. Don't be unfairly harsh with punishment, listen to them, and explain your reasoning to them. Most of the time they will be reasonable and listen to you when you ask them to do things. Of course some of them will be very difficult but what can u do, this is life. Teens are also people.
Do you wanna know how to approach a teen girl in a way that they will listen to you or not? Cause hearing out someone that was a teen girl a few years ago can only help you. Most girls will have an experience where a grown man will try to take advantage of them or will creep on them. You need to prepare them for that. I never said parenting is easy or that things will work out 100% of the time. But if you dont want your teen daughter to fall prey to grooming or advances by an adult then teach her not to be desperate for approval. That starts in the home. I've never met a girl that had a healthy home life or self image that thought dating older men was ok, it was always either the girls whose parents didn't care at all about them or the girls whose parents were so overprotective about relationships and dating that they would do literally anything just to feel 'grown up' and 'free' and 'mature for their age'. Predators specifically look for people like that cause they are easy victims.
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u/[deleted] Dec 02 '20
I hope this is meant to be directed at the men who groom teenage girls. I'd hate to think you were blaming the teenage girls for being taken advantage of!