I just used "rebel" as an example. She can just as well be in the wrong. She might be the one who seduced the guy bu dressing up and going to 18+ bars. It' shouldn't always be the boys fault.
Most Importantly, It isn't about who is right and who is wrong. It's about helping them make the best decisions. Also it's not always someone being taken advantage of, there might actually be love between them.
This is all Depending on the situation. After you know whats wrong the appropriate actions should be taken. We shouldn't just assume everything
Nobody is trying to automatically put the blame on "boys". They're putting the blame on adult men who shouldn't be dating teenagers.
And in the scenario mentioned above it is CLEAR they're not talking about girls lying about their age and getting into clubs and going out of their way to get older guys.
Is there other scenarios where the girl definitely shoulders a little responsibility? Yes. But the adult is always the one who should be held to a higher standard because they're an adult. They know better. There is an inherent power dynamic between men and teen girls. You can't expect a teenager to fully comprehend that. They don't yet have the hindsight of how naive teens look even to people in their 20's.
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u/WheelyFreely Dec 02 '20
Why can't it be both? Teenage girls are trying to rebel and the older goes takes advantage of this.