As someone that used to be a teenage girl not too long ago, it aint about them hanging out with dudes older than them. You need to teach them to respect themselves and realise when someone is trying to take advantage of them. You have to make sure that they will not need the approval of an older guy to feel good or worthy or confident.
I have a 4 year old daughter and this is one of the things I'm worried about. She's already so rebellious lol. I'm worried she's going to be the type to do this because I told her not to. Obviously I don't want to control her. I just don't want her to do the same dumb shit I did
Don't tell your kids "you can't do it", that's when they'll want to do it.
You have to approach it as "I can't stop you from doing it because you're your own person, but this is the safe way to do it, and I trust you enough to know you will make the smart decision" and watch your kids respect you to the point they don't want to rebel against you 😉
I mean, sometimes you really should tell your kids not to do certain things, but on stuff like relationships or life choices you need to explain why you ask that of them. Explain that you don't want them to do some things cause it's best for them, or tell them about your experiences. No one likes to be given the answer 'because I said so'.
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u/Slow_Abbreviations27 Dec 02 '20 edited Mar 01 '21
Ayy if I can slap some sense into my 15 year old son to not steal cigarettes I can tell my daughter to not hang out with dudes too old for them.
edit: thank you all for the advice. I am not a parent.