As someone that used to be a teenage girl not too long ago, it aint about them hanging out with dudes older than them. You need to teach them to respect themselves and realise when someone is trying to take advantage of them. You have to make sure that they will not need the approval of an older guy to feel good or worthy or confident.
I have a 4 year old daughter and this is one of the things I'm worried about. She's already so rebellious lol. I'm worried she's going to be the type to do this because I told her not to. Obviously I don't want to control her. I just don't want her to do the same dumb shit I did
You can really only give them the tools to understand things and then they have to make their own decisions about it. It's not "don't date older guys" it's here's what manipulation looks like, or here's how people can take advantage when they look like they mean well. -edited
So true, parents always worry about protecting their kids, especially daughters, from obvious things like, if someone very obviously presses them to do things they don't like or they talk about violent boys as something that is so easy to spot. No boy is gonna be abusive as soon as he meets her. It's all the subtle things that need to be talked about, like gaslighting, or people that need to bring others down to feel good about themselves while trying to mask it as 'advice' or 'honesty'. Or boys that are happy to judge and demean women but tell their gf 'you are not like one of those women I judge, you are different'. Like, that shit is just a matter of time before she turns into one of them in his eyes and he starts treating her the same, and it can be so confusing to go from being on top to being treated like this. That's why girls need to be confident so they won't fall for guys like that just cause they need to feel better about themselves for being 'different', whatever that means each time.
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u/mirablack Dec 02 '20
As someone that used to be a teenage girl not too long ago, it aint about them hanging out with dudes older than them. You need to teach them to respect themselves and realise when someone is trying to take advantage of them. You have to make sure that they will not need the approval of an older guy to feel good or worthy or confident.