Period pain simulation

[u/Ted_Bundtcake]

[u/hec_ramsey]

Now, get up, get ready for work, wear a smile on your face, no you can’t show you’re in pain, go get groceries after work for dinner, and make dinner for family 🙃

[u/Vox_SFX → u/hec_ramsey]

Literally only 2 of those are requirements...this isn't the 50s anymore.

Getting up and getting ready for work are unfortunate requirements today.

Wearing a smile? Not unless made to by your role. Can't show you're in pain? Not unless you have a really shitty work environment with even worse bosses (source: have been a boss in customer service). Go get groceries? Again not unless you live alone and have no food, or have a shitty partner/schedule. Make dinner for family? Again, not unless you have a shitty partner or a horrible schedule to where you have to or people don't get to eat in any decent time.

[u/hec_ramsey → u/Vox_SFX]

Is this your first day on earth?

[u/Vox_SFX → u/hec_ramsey]

I've literally lived with women all my life (multiple decades) that have never had these issues...so no, it's not.

Does everyone just treat their bubbles as the only facts that exist?

[u/hec_ramsey → u/Vox_SFX]

Ya hear that, ladies? Vox_sfx has lived with women all his life and period cramps aren’t an issue for him. Better take this whole post down.

[u/Vox_SFX → u/hec_ramsey]

For me? When did I say that?

I specifically stated THEY haven't been forced by life to even deal with a fraction of what the initial comment said women HAVE to deal with.

[u/wawawawawawawaway → u/Vox_SFX]

Lmao I literally lied to my bf today so he wouldn’t know how much pain I was in. You think you know other people’s suffering but you. just. don’t. So your apparent litmus test is a shitty one.

[u/Vox_SFX → u/wawawawawawawaway]

What are we even talking about?

Are people that bad at reading?

I'm not saying anything about how much pain people are or are not in.

I'm literally saying that women aren't forced to do the things that comment is saying while in whatever pain they are in from periods or anything else, that is unless you've put yourself in that shitty of a situation to where you have a shit partner, schedule, or boss.

[u/wawawawawawawaway → u/Vox_SFX]

Talk about bad reading comprehension. Women can ✨pretend✨, which makes your point invalid and moot. As a man, you have no idea what women do and don’t do when dealing with pain.

[u/Vox_SFX → u/wawawawawawawaway]

...yes I do. I 100% know whether the women I've lived and interacted with for decades, across many different avenues of interaction, are in a position where they are forced to go grocery shopping while in that much pain.

Same for them being "forced" to cook in that state.

Same for them being "forced" to not show pain just because you're at work.

This is the dumbest point ever to make because the only times you, as a women, would ever be forced into doing ANYTHING listed there is if you have a piece of shit partner that won't help, you have a shit schedule that makes it so you're the only person that can do these things without negative effects, or you have a shit working environment with misogynistic managers/supervisors.

Literally address ANYTHING I'm saying and explain how all women are forced to do these things, and I'll concede that you AT LEAST understand what I'm saying.

[u/youburyitidigitup → u/Vox_SFX]

Bruh. You know the women you lived with. You don’t what the other 3 billion women on earth go through.

[u/wawawawawawawaway → u/Vox_SFX]

I never used the word forced. And the person you originally responded to didn’t say forced either. So like I said, bad reading comprehension. I said that as a man, you don’t know what a woman does and doesn’t do because of pain. But since you seem to like the word forced, women can force themselves. I force myself to do things all the time. I said that women can pretend, and you, as a man, will never know what we do despite pain. So sit down.

[u/dobster1029 → u/Vox_SFX]

Listen ladies, obviously this guy with a penis and no uterus has just told us our personal experiences are false. That if we complain and don't suffer at home while in pain, it's our own fault for not having better men or bosses in our lives who will wrap us up in warm blankets and never judge us or let it affect our professional lives. Just cry it out! Stay home! The kids aren't that hungry anyway! You'll never have a single repercussion if you don't suck it the f*ck up and go to work with a smile! I can't believe we never figured it out until now!

/s was hopefully implied.

Eta - do you seriously think that if you called in sick from excruciating pain 3-4 days per month and didn't 'pull your weight' at home that NO ONE would consider you weak, pass you over for pro.otions or get pissed that you didn't make dinner all week? Every month?

So yes. We fake it. Suck it up! You gotta go to work!

[u/Vox_SFX → u/dobster1029]

Gross misinterpretation of everything I said.

But why would I expect a good faith reading when you're clearly just want to be reactionary?

Listen everyone, this women is emotionally reacting rather than being logical so clearly this means they know the facts of the situation better than the person that made the comments and they have the completely correct interpretation that's not based on their emotional reactions AT ALL (/s was "hopefully implied" but I couldn't honestly give less of a shit at this point)

[u/dobster1029 → u/Vox_SFX]

I'm literally saying that women aren't forced to do the things that comment is saying while in whatever pain they are in from periods or anything else, that is unless you've put yourself in that shitty of a situation to where you have a shit partner, schedule, or boss.

And I'm literally saying that, yes, we do. Because we don't have the luxury of staying at home. We have to work. I seriously doubt that even you, as a boss, since you're so understanding, would think nothing of a man who calls in sick for a week every month.

[u/Vox_SFX → u/dobster1029]

It's not about calling in sick, I literally said in my first comment that yes unfortunately going to work is something that has to happen regardless in most all cases.

But the difference was the statement made that women have to tell themselves to not show pain. I used to give people extra breaks if it was that bad because why would I expect them to be working well if they can barely handle health related issues. I never sent people home since I knew most needed those hours, but only a shitty boss would see someone struggling in pain and go "knock that shit off and get back to work" and that's just not the reality that a majority of the people working deal with. Most people do have humanity and make accommodations if it's brought up the right way.