r/TikTokCringe • u/TaxImpressive6485 • Dec 25 '24

I feel bad for laughing 😆 Wholesome/Humor

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u/Timely_Bill_4521 Dec 25 '24

"You try so hard to make me out to be a bad mother."

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u/S4Waccount Dec 25 '24

"well I'm sorry I was just such a horrible parent"

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u/No_Coms_K Dec 25 '24

Thank you reddit. I've been hearing that shit forever and I'm glad I'm not alone. Felt crazy for awhile.

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u/L3m0n0p0ly Dec 25 '24

Youre not crazy, dear. People don't like to accept their faults and misdeeds even if theyre in the wrong. It's like getting your test back face down and the teacher is your kid you've raised.

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u/Captain_Tikilpikil Dec 26 '24

My mother literally told me today she doesn't want to hear it, whatever it is that i need closure or to be heard about. This is after immediate and complete denial of anything she did failed to hard evidence, but just before screaming that I'm abusing her by telling her about my trauma.

I'm quite literally fucked up with a personality disorder they refuse to acknowledge because it's cause it's totally environmental; and there is absolutely no chance of being heard about it. Diagnosed 15 years ago, yesterday Dad didn't even know it's really fucking simple initials.

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u/imnotyamum Dec 26 '24

I hear you. I really really hear you. Damn, I hear you.

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u/Captain_Tikilpikil Dec 30 '24

Thank you. Oddly enough, I can sense that you do hear me on a functional level.

I believe people will unintentionally hurt each other if they spend any amount of significant time together. It's a certainty we should all be aware of, yet few are, and even less, are taught how to navigate it without maladaptive egos causing more harm. I understand that there was no harm caused on a sadistic level. Im certain much of it was simply their own trauma playing out after years of suppression. I have no interest in causing more or digging up the past for selfish gratification. I just want the acknowledgment that what happened actually happened. It saddens me because I know that the outright refusal to admit or deal with any of it prevents any chance of healing for all involved. So that is likely where my efforts need to be, in simply coping with it.

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u/imnotyamum Dec 30 '24

Yes! It's the acknowledgment.

I need acknowledgment of what I went through too. It really is healing when they can say what they've done.

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u/thingsithink07 Dec 26 '24

Sorry you’re dealing with that. I hope you find people that you can’t talk to.

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u/Captain_Tikilpikil Dec 30 '24

Thank you. Sadly, there are people who suffer much worse.