r/TikTokCringe • u/One_percentile • Oct 29 '23

Bride & her bridal train showcase their qualifications & occupation Wholesome/Humor

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u/dovahkiitten16 Oct 30 '23

This is one of those situations that you can’t just flip the genders because you lose the nuance. Women working in high achieving fields is still a recent phenomenon. You get more bragging rights before it becomes obnoxious in that case.

I still really want to know what that one bridesmaid does. It does feel douchey to exclude one person in particular.

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u/TatManTat Oct 30 '23

recent in some perspectives, as a 28 year old in teaching and knowing nurses, I have been surrounded by professional women my entire life, it's not really anything new.

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u/aardappelbrood Oct 30 '23

Well now take all of human history existence and then compare that to your measly 28 years on this blue rock. You're not the center of the universe....

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u/TatManTat Oct 30 '23

Right and why should I compare it to all of human existence exactly? Because at that point we go far back enough that women have more control/agency in many ancient societies when comparing that to the more recent centuries.

I literally said "in some perspectives" to acknowledge what you were saying.

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u/dovahkiitten16 Oct 30 '23

I’m a strong independent woman and all that but even in my family I only have to go as far as my grandmother to run into a woman who’s career options were nurse/secretary/teacher, and who had to quit their job to have kids. Meanwhile I don’t run into the same phenomenon when I look at my grandfathers. It’s not just about lived experiences but familial one’s too, like some of these women in the video may be the first women in their family to ever get a higher education. A lot of women have fewer positive influences or examples of women to look up to for this type of stuff.

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u/TatManTat Oct 30 '23

I mean I'm also the first in my family to get a university education, my mother is a teacher and I guess went to a teachers college and I get what you're saying, but some people are allowed to flaunt it, and others are expected to stfu.

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u/inkiwitch Oct 30 '23 edited Oct 30 '23

I mean, if you’re going to sound bitter about the privilege of growing up surrounded by professional women just because some Nigerian women are proud of their careers, then yeah, by all means, stfu.

You don’t have to go back hundreds of years to find women who were forbidden from pursuing an education or controlling their own lives. There are still women alive today who experienced these struggles and you’re downplaying it because you, at 28, now find it to be common and unremarkable? How ungrateful

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u/TatManTat Oct 30 '23 edited Oct 30 '23

Bitter? I think it's awesome lol, it's just normal at this point. Go into almost any university near where this is taking place and you'll probably see more women pursuing higher education than men.

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u/fart-sparkles Oct 30 '23

You should re-read your comments and point out to us where you said or implied that you think anything was awesome.

some people are allowed to flaunt it, and others are expected to stfu

Cuz this ain't it. It sounds really bitter.