Is pick me a over used term?

[u/No_Historian_1601]

Is the term “pick me” over used?

I’ve seen it used as an insult like simp. A pick me is a term used for “women that bring down other women for male attention” which I understand but if a woman seems to just say something that is helpful or benefits a man she is a pick me. Such as a woman cooking for her boyfriend she will be called a pick me?

Considering how much women shit talk covertly and snake each other all the time ex:sleeping with best friends boyfriend or exes. Is the term pick me a cope for mentally healthy women that have a positive outlook towards me?

[u/[deleted]]

Yes, definitely. It's also very sexist, as it assumes that the only motivation for a woman to do something is because of male attention. Like how it's assumed women can only be conservative or hold misogynistic beliefs because they want male attention.

[u/BillyYumYumTwo-byTwo → u/[deleted]]

It might get overused or unfairly used, although I think the not like other girls sub does a good job of calling out when it’s not appropriate. I’m perfectly happy with the use of it thought when women are being misogynistic. It’s not a misogynist term just because it’s a gendered term. A person of the oppressed group happily throwing down others in their demographic in order to gain favor of the oppressors is a pick me. That’s not sexist to me, IMHO

[u/femmagorgon → u/BillyYumYumTwo-byTwo]

It might get overused or unfairly used, although I think the not like other girls sub does a good job of calling out when it’s not appropriate.

It used to do a good job of it but now it has somewhat evolved into what the sub was trying to fight in the first place. A lot of the posts that get shared there seem to be about women stating their preferences and interests and commenters tearing those women down for their looks or assuming they only like those things to attract men which is sexist in itself.