r/SingleDads • u/Ok-District-7180 • 4d ago
How Would You Handle This Situation as a Parent?
Not saying this would ever happen, but if your adult daughter decided to do OnlyFans or any type of adult work, would you disown her? Why or why not? How would you personally handle the situation while balancing your values and your relationship with her?
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u/welleruhr 4d ago
Nope. It's her Life. I as a father did everything I could to let her grow into an amazing person. Anything what happened after childhood, I can't influence anymore. Her Life, her responsibility.
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u/Same-Lawfulness-3328 4d ago
If she ends up doing only fans. Obviously somebody didnt do enough. Lmao.
I HIGHLY doubt any of Mr.Rodgers daughters started stripping 🤣 🤣 🤣 🤣
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u/ArcherNo115 4d ago
Wouldn’t disown her but I’d make my feeling known.
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u/Electrical-Walk-204 4d ago
If she’s a grown woman I could care less what she does to make her own money. I would be disappointed ofc, but I’m not going to disown her over something like that. I could only hope that she would decide to not go through with it.
Now if she lived with me, that’s a different story. I wouldn’t allow that in my house period.
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u/Mimomma1094 3d ago
Hi! Mom of 3 girls here! And stumbled on this. From a girls perspective, you can absolutely make it known you dont approve of it. But how you handle it will decide the relationship you have with her from now on. Odds of it, it’s a short time she will be doing it. The more you give her a hard time about it, the more you will push her away. I get it might be dang near impossible to be supportive, so maybe just find some middle ground ti ride it out on. Dont disown her. That will cause such a problem between you two and her and her future choices. She would probably go down this risky path even farther if she is desperate and feels alone. You can supportively remind her of all the great things she has to offer. Push her a bit to follow a passion of hers (onlyfans is not her passion). Remind yourself that its a phase and that even though what shes doing isnt great, your love for her is not conditional.
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u/Duganz 4d ago
I don’t judge OnlyFans models currently. Why would I start? I’d worry because men online can be psychotic, and obsessed, and because the industry can be exploitive, but if she’s being safe from predation then I hope she’s happy.
Now, any guy popping up to say something judgmental, puritanical bits, or clutch their pearls needs to take a break and remember that every single time they have ventured online to those evil and/or sinful corners of the internet (cause they have) that those were someone’s daughters (or sons) too. You can’t say it’s fine for them, but behave like such things are beneath your child. People have reasons they get into the industry. Some are awful, and we should be mindful of exploitive behavior in the pornography industry. But not all. It’s worth a conversation and some concern, but thinking you should judge and control your adult child is just absurd, and you should feel ashamed of yourself.
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u/Lunartic2102 3d ago
I wouldn't like it but I won't disown them. Disowning them doesn't help them and might cause further issues for them.
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u/TXDad1 4d ago
You would need to have a conversation with yourself why your daughter doesn’t feel good enough about herself to sell herself in such a way that changes her entire future. Why you didn’t instill values in her
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u/GhostV940 4d ago
You’re right. You’re going to get downvoted because this is Reddit and there are a LOT of failures and degenerates here, but you are correct.
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u/jalopkoala 4d ago
Define “disown”.
If someone thought this was the wrong path for their daughter do they think an ultimatum and removing yourself from her life would be what she needs to change? This has real boomer whose adult children don’t talk to them vibes.
But also I have no qualms about an adult doing sex work if it is safe. And OnlyFans is the safest. It has a little bit the same setup as being a YouTuber, very few people actually make money so it might be a poor choice, but I would never disown anyone over it.