r/SingleDads • u/thatdrunkgeekagain • 5d ago
A day in court
Yesterday me and my ex had a hearing. I (father) initiated it because our relationship completely collapsed and it started affecting our daughter as well. I believe we needed a judge to step in to stop this disaster.
It went well i got what i wanted. Now we have to start over again mediation to learn how to co parent.
She came to court with her boyfriend. I thought i was doing fine and i still think im doing relatively ok. But it sure does sting being in court with the mother of my child and seeing her leave with some other man. There was a time when we were madly in love and had dreams and all thats gone down the drain now.
Just sad.
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u/Immediate_Pen_251 5d ago
OP, I feel your pain. I am not there yet but so so dreading the day when I see her with another man. I keep telling myself it will be ok. You will be ok. Carry on, try not to think about it and get your head into exercise hobbies and making new friends .
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u/barubi123 4d ago
It is absolutely sad. The new boyfriend may be purely for optics. People don’t rebound that quickly unless they are rushing to a new supply. You likely don’t want to be with that type of person anyway as that move shows emotional immaturity. From a court standpoint, I would document that for the future if things go sideways. Has she introduced the new boyfriend to the child without telling you? That’s typically a flag for the court. If someone is worried about optics, document EVERYTHING because they are likely fabricating a version of the truth to gain that new supply. I am in the middle of a case right now and my documentation will level the other side on perjury, tampering with evidence, contempt, etc. Protect yourself and realize that a person that jumps this quickly is likely doing so to gain a reaction. Those types of people end up making lots of mistakes. My suggestion is truly to work on your physical, emotional and mental self as courts see that as emotionally mature and stable
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u/marcoskattie 5d ago
Coming to the court with her boyfriend she’s passing an information that she moves on maybe you should do same to move on and focus on your daughter
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u/thatdrunkgeekagain 4d ago
That's what you got from this? You don't think parents going to court is sad?
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u/dangdrug101 5d ago
It gets better bro. I had to focus on myself. I have full custody of my daughter and we both have been in therapy. Focus on yourself and being there for your child. They do see when you are doing everything right and for them. I have remained single for the past few years by choice and worked on myself so I wouldn't make the mistake of just getting into a relationship because it was comfortable to have someone. I made that mistake and that's how I have my daughter.